Love help: I’m 16 and my boyfriend 18. - Help.com

“I decided to take him back because none of my other relationships worked”

Well thats no good reason to take him back is it? so ask yourself is it really worth telling your dad about it?

Don’t bother.

Take your time. You don’t have to rush a relationship which is likely to end up making a fool out you infront of your family.

Its ok to be alone and happy..try that…!

Not trying to be rude or anything.. But try putting urself in my shoes. It took me 4 years to take him back and I have never been this happy In my life (12 year old have relationships 2 serious or not) we have gone out for 5months now and my mothers family knows about him just not my dad’s side. My dad realy is ok with me having a boyfriend but in scared of him cuz I don’t know how it is living with him

when we young we think we know everything…when we get older and waiser(sorry for my spelling)we know that we know nothing.
I WISH YOU ALL THE BEST!
if you are happy that great. i bealive in telling the truth…if your mother know about you 2 and approve this relatioshipe…your father will…maybe bring your boyfriend with you that he see that his ok and try to know him better.
good luck!

Thx I’ll try it nd see how it goes

When you’re 8-years-old, nothing is your business and
when you’re 12-years-old there is no such thing as a serious relationship.
It’s sad to read that the goings of this girl since 12 are based upon the
statistics of a divided family. The guiding principals drop to near-zero
and children are able to go about doing as they wish.
Even at your age now, the “seriousness” of a relationship hasn’t even cleared
the tower. You’re still in school (with great hopes, against all odds) and
you should be looking forward to some fun and adventure - maybe even going to
college. Definately a carreer of some sort where you (and perhaps even your if your
boyfriend), can get a place together and have a long and healthy relationship.
Only then does it begin to get serious - but in a good way.
But, girl, I will tell you, that both you and your boyfriend will meet with
disaster if you get pregnet.
If you’re doing well and your dad know this, then it won’t be so bad to let him know about the relationship. But, if he sees that you are not doing well, he can connect the dots too and see that it will not end up good.

Now I see the reason why other teens don’t wanna come on sites like these and ask questions about things their worries/curious about, becuz some people just take things way out of proportion. And saying tht the things I’ve done was based on the fact that my parents are divorced are insane. Just 2 be accurate I was 12 going 13 and the relationship was not so serious we just made out and talked about stuff its really not what u made it out to be. “The guiding principals drop to near-zero” like wht do u think of my parents? U mak it sound like im not a **** but near tht and I may go an please as I like well ur wrong. I’m an A student with high moral values an throughout the years I have had boyfriends yes and not once did that had a negative influence on my school work, my currnt boyfriend is on top of his class too. And tell me wht is really so bad about having a boyfriend at my age? ( U said sumthing about pregnancy well thts not in my vocab) (with all due respect)

carmen.bezuidenhou wrote:
Now I see the reason why other teens don’t wanna come on sites like these and ask questions about things their worries/curious about, becuz some people just take things way out of proportion. And saying tht the things I’ve done was based on the fact that my parents are divorced are insane. Just 2 be accurate I was 12 going 13 and the relationship was not so serious we just made out and talked about stuff its really not what u made it out to be. “The guiding principals drop to near-zero” like wht do u think of my parents? U mak it sound like im not a **** but near tht and I may go an please as I like well ur wrong. I’m an A student with high moral values an throughout the years I have had boyfriends yes and not once did that had a negative influence on my school work, my currnt boyfriend is on top of his class too. And tell me wht is really so bad about having a boyfriend at my age? ( U said sumthing about pregnancy well thts not in my vocab) (with all due respect)

You are right, not many teens appreciate the good advice they get here and consequently helpers are faced with over-reaction. These teens much prefer going for advice at IAgreeWithYou.com

But hey, you know thats just the way life has to go and we as helpers, often forget that. The only way for you to learn, especially at your age, is through costly experience. So by all means enjoy your teens the way you see fit.

Fear no one, including your dad, and tell him if thats what you need to do. No big deal.
I hope this response is more in line with what you were hoping for :)

why are you afraid of telling your father? because of the age difference?

no its just that my sistr who now is 20 has never really had a relationship that my parents knew about so I don’t knw how my father would react… I have skimped about having a bf to my father but he says I must focus on school work and stuff. But thn again he said he wanted to hear from me if there is a boy and not from someone else I’m actualy confused

well, you’re 16 years old now, and i think most people would agree that’s not too young to have a boyfriend of some sort. people worry about kids and teenagers in relationships because it often gets you in trouble with situations that you’re not ready for. especially on help.com when every once in a while a 14 year old will come on here saying “i’m going to have a baby with my 21 year old bf!” but some relationships can definitely be age-appropriate.

i’m sure your father cares about you and wants what’s best for you. hopefully he will be understanding of the situation, but you must keep in mind that if he does get angry, it’s because he’s protective of you. it’s hard for a father to accept his daughter’s boyfriend sometimes, especially if the boy is a few years older.

even if your dad was unreasonable about it, you don’t live with him, so it’s not like he could ban you from seeing your bf. i agree that it would be best to hear about your bf from you than from someone else.

I really appreciate it thx. Means a lot..

carmen.bezuidenhou wrote:
Now I see the reason why other teens don’t wanna come on sites like these and ask questions about things their worries/curious about, becuz some people just take things way out of proportion. And saying tht the things I’ve done was based on the fact that my parents are divorced are insane.

Not really Carmen, I said what I did for two reasons.
1. The statistics prove it.
2. I come from divorced parents (since 11-years-old), and I know what goes with the territory. I said absolutely NOTHING about the mentality of your parents. The truth, however, remains that when two adults do not re-enforce each others views when it comes to certain issues, the integrity of family values begins to dissolve.
As a child, I found many a wonderful oppertunity to get myself into trouble because I had the time for it and a lack of family support.
In your case, you had time for early relationships.
You don’t escape the box.

even if it were true, blaming parents wouldn’t solve anything. it shouldn’t come as a surprise that just implying something is wrong with her family would make the op defensive. besides, she can’t control her parents’ marriage, child-rearing, or change what she did what she was 12, so picking that apart is criticism without the constructive element. take out that part and focus on what is relevant.

come on guys, she’s a 16 year old with a boyfriend and she wants to break the news to her dad. you don’t have to assume the worst every single time. we all were kids once.

OP.
Your dad knew a long time ago (when you were 12) that you and your boyfriend liked each other. I don’t think it would really come as a big surprise to him if you told him that you and your boyfriend are back together.
Give it a go.

Actualy my dad left when I was 7. And he didn’t knw about any boy that I had. Well he knows I have boyfriends but no one in particular.