school help: I need advise ~ My husband and I is married for 14 years. - Help.com

How old are you?

this is all kinds of drama. bringing a kid into it wasn’t the grandest of ideas, but there’s nothing else to do but move on. my question would be, what are you still doing w/ him? sounds like he’s nothing but baggage you’ve carried around for 14years(wow!), not to mention your mother. i would be at a loss too, and for the sake of my kid i’d try my hardest to snap out of it and make it(and myself) the priority.

You’ve been married for 14 years. And he’s 24 years older. That makes me believe that he must’ve been in his forties when you married, and pushing 60 or older now. Does he receive a pension? Is retired from somewhere?

I think you should give him an ultimatum.

AlcyONE wrote:
Kick his ratty old a$$ to the curb. He has taken advantage of you and your family long enough.

Alcy! Don’t tell me you’re into “ageism”!

As for the guy involved, yes, he needs to look like hell for a job. Jobs get very scarce for men in their late 50s or in their 60s. Age discrimination is a very, very, very big deal. There are laws against it, but no enforcement of the laws. There’s no “affirmative action” plan for hiring or promoting older workers. They are getting pushed out the door to make room for younger, cheaper workers–who, in turn, will one day also be pushed out the door to make room for younger, cheaper labor.

There’s always the “greeter” job at Wal-Mart. As for me, I’m leaving for Afghanistan next week because no one in North America wants to hire anyone over 45. Funny thing–I’ll be making about six times the salary of those mindless, morally bankrupt HR drones who make it one of their chief priorities to screen out older applicants.