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I think Im at my last straw.

I was giving my children a bath, my youngest has a wierd fear of the water. She’s never fell or almost drowned, she just doesn’t like it. So she was screaming her head off while I was trying to wash her hair. My bf slammed the door. When I was done I gave him a look like wtf. He said he didn’t want to hear that crap. That when he was watching them for me, they didnt act like that. So I said how should I handle it then. Maybe if you would help me Ill see what he does different and can improve. He said no ‘they are retarded howler monkeys you need to spank them and stop letting them run all over you. My youngest is a year old. She’s scared. Why would I spank her if she is already freaked about bath time. Later after the bath I was reading her a book. While I was she turned the page and was pointing at characters in the book and making noises. I was telling her the name of the characters, then I started pointing and telling who my favorite are, and asked her hers. He said shes just making noises. She doesnt have a favorite she doesn’t know what your saying. She doesnt know anything. I believe that just cause babies cant talk yet doesnt mean they dont know what they mean, and what we mean for that matter. He’s starting to upset me with this. I know he doesn’t have children of his own, so its hard for him to understand. But I want a relationship where were a family. Not just the chick and kids I live with.

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Dr. Ozy offline Verified User (6 years) Long Term User Shouts: 34 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (3 minutes after post)

it doesn’t sound like your bf cares the slightest bit about your children. i wonder what you see in him.

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Sam❤ offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (15 minutes after post)

when i was a kid i was scared that an octopus or shark would swim up the drain. could that be it?

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1 year ago (31 minutes after post)

Its still a reletivly new relationship. He wasn’t such a jerk a few weeks ago. But with the way he’s been lately, I think its time he goes. I noticed yesterday when he came home for lunch my daughter left my room, where we were hanging out. When he left for work again she came back. I think they pick up on his negative energy and dont want to be around him

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Basketcrazymomm offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (54 minutes after post)

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First, children know many more words than they actually say even before they say their first words. What you were doing while reading the book to your daughter was a wonderful teaching activity. Toddlers learn by interacting with adults. She was learning that communication is give and take. In other words, you say something and then I respond…even if she was basically talking gibberish at the time.

You sound like a wonderful mom. Unfortunately your bf basically sounds immature. Like it or not, those babies mean everything. They are part of you…. and he isn’t. Move on. There are guys out there who are mature enough to value children and love them even if they aren’t their own. Hold out for one of the good ones. In the meantime, enjoy those little ones. Good luck!

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bexsphillip offline Verified User (3 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (56 minutes after post)

get out why you can or talk to him about his actions maybe something is up but you dont deserve to be treated this way!

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verge offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 134 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (1 hour, 4 minutes after post)

I think reading and talking to your babies is extremely important. Maybe you should consider finding a man who is on the same page as you are with some compassion.

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Dr. Ozy offline Verified User (6 years) Long Term User Shouts: 34 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (1 hour, 14 minutes after post)

it the relationship is so new then why are you living with him? why are you letting him bathe your children and spank your baby?

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1 year ago (1 hour, 49 minutes after post)

It happened all coinsedently. I was hospitalized a month ago, I didnt have anyone who could help me while I was. He took care of my children while I was. After that he just kinda stayed. I was extremely thankful for his help, thought I found a good guy. But with time I think he is annoyed with this new situation.

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