I was dating this guy for about 2 months, that I really like and he really likes me too.
He has been married twice, has a kid with his second wife, was divorced from her about 2 years ago then rushed into a live-in relationship with his now ex (ex as of December) - now he is living with a roommate, financially strapped from child support, private school payments, debt, - is stressed professionally, and personally.
He and I got along great - he told me that he had never had such a connection with anyone before and he even said the ‘L’ word. Intimately we were very compatible as well - almost in everyway. It was great, ….except that he decided that he did not want to be attached.
He gave the reasoning that he is not capable of handling a relationship - his personal, professional, financial life are in disarray - he has been spending time with me and neglecting other things. I tried to speak with him about it to find a middle ground - we could see each other a couple days a week instead of most days..etc.
He knows that I am good for him and help him focus on good things. I told him that he knows that and he enjoys being with me, but is scared. He said that was true.
He says that if he doesn’t txt/etc it isn’t because he is not thinking of me. He said I would probably see him out with different girls, but it means nothing -that what he needs is something superfical, not anything heavy and told me that I am a quality person that deserves better. He said he isn’t able to give me anything.
I like this guy, but he knows many girls like him and maybe he just wants to be around more than just me. Maybe he does have a good heart and really cares - or maybe he has just been playing me all along. I can’t tell.
What should I do? What is a guys perspective on this? Please help! :o|
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