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I’m 31 currently in college and married.

I’m working on losing weight and have recently lost 21 lbs. Ive had problems with depression and it feels like none of the things ive accomplished are worth anything. I want so badly to be happy but just cant be. I have no one to talk to because everyone I know will wantto have me hospitalized if the word suicide is even mentioned. I just feel crappy and as if my future is not going to be worth anything.
I’m literally holding on by sheer will. And only bothering with that because I love my family and my animalsand don’t want to hurt them by leaving.

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Zirbel offline Verified User (2 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (3 minutes after post)

You should see a psychiatrist/psychologist at your place for help and support!

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Mariam* offline Verified User (2 years) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (22 minutes after post)

Talk with your university’s counseling services.

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linuxya offline Verified User (6 years, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (1 hour, 30 minutes after post)

Stop running away from your fears.

Stop being a perfectionist about your looks and your life.

Embrace being a flawed human being. Yeah, you are afraid. THat’s OK. Stop running from those fears. Every time you run from fear you teach your brain it’s the only thing to do. What is suicide? It’s the ultimate in running away… your brain doesn’t know how to run away from fears that are inside you so it decides suicide is the only running left.

All this energy you waste being afraid and running from fear is what turns you into a depressed victim. You have to start taking little risks again. Failure is ok. Focus on taking the risks and finishing things in tiny little steps. Celebrate every tiny step you take.

The good news is you have the power to change your attitude and your feelings just by adopting realistic beliefs and practising deep slow breathing and avoiding perfectionism.

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kfischbache offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (1 week, 3 days after post)

I read your post. I think it is great that you are working on losing weight which can help your self image. Keep at it. I feel crappy at times too but you need to keep going despite the challenges you are facing. Try and keep busy and keep your mind off being depressed all the time. Maybe you need to visit your local GP and get a prescription of antidepressants which is a mood enhancer - it will help.

Keep the faith and don’t lose hope in yourself. Try speaking with your spouse. Good luck!

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