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How long ago did you two break up?
You know sometimes after a break up you just need to have some quality time for yourself. It takes time to get over someone and it depends on each and every person how long that time will be. It’s okay to cry, it’s okay not to be perfect. Break up hurts, that’s how emotions work. You’re going to get over it and be stronger, you’re going to love again and who knows maybe be hurt again as well. Life is happening to you, to everyone else and you never know what tomorrow brings, you have to take a risk thought and go on, face what comes because the day after it might be just great again.
Just give yourself time, talk to friends, do things you love, try out something you always wanted.
I usually find that some big change takes my mind off of it easier.
And you can always come here and talk to us:)

two weeks… Meanwhile i went home cameback did evry possible thing but i cry atleast once in a day… I never did what i wanted, i am a doc, what i am today is due to my parents choice and i dont like being a doc.. So at present i dont even care if i do post graduation or not.. I ve basically given up… That one person who used to make me confident and happy is gone… At present i really dont care whats going on.. I was a control freak nerd and now these emotions are too much to handle..

Wow does not your previous stepford life just not sound so un-groovy.

Maybe it is not the love breakup, which is causing the imperfections, maybe it just helps to reveal them.

As Dawin would have said, its the imperfections that make the mankind

Become human rebel, before it is too late.

Can you take some time off your work? It’s normal to feel like this trust me. You’re going to be over this and you’re going to be okay. I know it’s hard to believe, i never did when i got my heart broken but it’s true.
In case you can take some time off you could perhaps go away for a weekend or so and just relax. Don’t think of what others expect of you just do things that make you feel good.

Don’t give up on yourself–heartbreak happens to every one! It’s part of life, you will get better!

dude, it just takes time. it was the wildest thing when i first encountered love in college, and somehow i wrapped myself into a relationship that broke my heart. i even knew breaking up was the right thing to do, but i was still too upset to socialize, or even eat much. surround yourself with friends, they will be your support. it’s okay to be sad, but sometimes you need to be reminded that life does go on. it was nearly 7 months before i was completely over my ex and kicking a55 again. we’ve all done it and you can too. have faith in yourself.

So you’re a perfectionist control freak.

Guess what? The reason is you refuse to face your fears. And here you are doing it again.

You need to ride those feelings out. Don’t fight them or repress them. Welcome them and breathe deeply until they pass.

Stop working so hard to avoid being a human!

lavender wrote:
just give yourself sometime to work through it. its not the end of the world, it just feels really ****** right now.

get yourself some comfort food, like a cupcake or some ice cream, watch a break up movie, cry a little and then go to sleep…you’ll feel better in a few weeks.

this is an opportunity!

I wish i culd… But my job and studies..

mintra wrote:
Wow does not your previous stepford life just not sound so un-groovy.

Maybe it is not the love breakup, which is causing the imperfections, maybe it just helps to reveal them.

As Dawin would have said, its the imperfections that make the mankind

Become human rebel, before it is too late.

I never thought i ll be in such condition.. I hate missing part… I miss a lot… I always considerd love and relationships stupid and waste of time.. And now i am struggling everyday..

friendlyheart wrote:
Can you take some time off your work? It’s normal to feel like this trust me. You’re going to be over this and you’re going to be okay. I know it’s hard to believe, i never did when i got my heart broken but it’s true.
In case you can take some time off you could perhaps go away for a weekend or so and just relax. Don’t think of what others expect of you just do things that make you feel good.

I dont know when that ll happen.. I am getting so distracted with all this.. I am doing so many mistakes now personal or proffessional.. Injured twice badly myself coz
i was distracted.. Cant take time off… I feel like leaving evrything and going back to my parents.. I used to fight for everything but now…

TreasureMap wrote:
Don’t give up on yourself–heartbreak happens to every one! It’s part of life, you will get better!

I hope so but somehow i am loosing… Did evrything for others now i cant think anything for myself..

a wild ozy appears wrote:
dude, it just takes time. it was the wildest thing when i first encountered love in college, and somehow i wrapped myself into a relationship that broke my heart. i even knew breaking up was the right thing to do, but i was still too upset to socialize, or even eat much. surround yourself with friends, they will be your support. it’s okay to be sad, but sometimes you need to be reminded that life does go on. it was nearly 7 months before i was completely over my ex and kicking a55 again. we’ve all done it and you can too. have faith in yourself.

All my friends are always busy as all of them are Dr.. And i dont want to go through it…

linuxya wrote:
So you’re a perfectionist control freak.

Guess what? The reason is you refuse to face your fears. And here you are doing it again.

You need to ride those feelings out. Don’t fight them or repress them. Welcome them and breathe deeply until they pass.

Stop working so hard to avoid being a human!

Thats how i protected myself from getting hurt from so long and somehow that mechanism is not working..

so why did you break up?

coz he had to support his exgf whose mother is a cancer patient and his exgf is not keeping well at all.. She said she ll try to get better if he cums back to her.. I never wanted to breakup but had to.. And its hard to see him going back.. We were together for 1 yr and best friends for 8yrs..

wow that genuinely sucks. was he your first love?

yeah.. My first in 26yrs…

the first love is always the hardest to get over. sorry you have to go through this at such a busy time in your life.

and rite now dont care where my life is heading to… Nothing makes anysense to me…

[quote a wild ozy appears]the first love is always the hardest to get over.quote]

So, so true!

the first heartbreak is also a learning experience. it rocks your world, and sometimes for a good reason. i wish you luck and i hope you are doing better.

i know ur feeling i have broken up with my bf recently and he was my first love too..it is sucks but we need to move on coz life didnt stop i know it’s killing spacially when he just doesnt even care and feels like nothing happened at all bu now you have to be patient and remember nothing deserves you tears

thanks everyone… I thought i ll tell you all what happen recently.. After ignoring my emotions for a month he finally started to understand me.. He asked me to promise him that i ll study and in return he ll try to get the same college for postgraduation.. He has started to take my feelings seriously its not like i forced him.. I just told him everythng and also i said these feelings are mine and its ok if u dont feel the same way.. He was with me for a week and then he had to go back home but he ll be cuming back in another 5 days.. I dont know if he is going to forget that promise and continue with ignoring or he ll come back as a strong person.. Coz i know He was hurting when i was hurting.. I know situation is making him do all this.. When he ll come back i am just going ask him not to hurt me again like this again..