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I’ve never been in love before, so i don’t know if it is supposed to hurt this much?

Any opinions would be greatly appreciated. I’m 21 and I started dating this guy two months ago at university and as life would have it this is my first romantic relationship. Believe it or not we have a sole mate type connection (we could even be twin flames). It just seems like we’ve know each other our entire lives.
Anyways my point is not how much I love him, it is the pain I feel when I am not near him. Since school ended less than a week ago, the majority of my waking and dreaming thoughts have been how much I care about him. We have talked every day and he misses me too, but I have no idea if he is feeling the same pain I am. The pain is awful. It makes me feel crazy.
Is this heartache to be expected? I try not to exaggerate but I feel torn in half. I’m a mess crying everyday, and I’m trying to pull it together and be my level headed self. Help, please.

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Dr. Ozy offline Verified User (6 years) Long Term User Shouts: 34 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (23 minutes after post)

it sounds more like an obsession. after only two months? crying every day?

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1 year ago (27 minutes after post)

I’ve just cried intermittently for the past five days.

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Dr. Ozy offline Verified User (6 years) Long Term User Shouts: 34 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (34 minutes after post)

do you live very far from one another?

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Anonymous #
1 year ago (8 hours, 3 minutes after post)

yes, we live in different parts of the country

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Anonymous #
1 year ago (17 hours, 59 minutes after post)

Doesn’t sound like you’re ready for long distance…

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Tamaragirl offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (2 days, 14 hours after post)

Do you guys talk on the phone at all? If not I would recommend it.
Or if you have time since you are done school, make a special trip to drive to see him and surprise him. And a little pain is okay i guess, but just think about all the reasons he makes you happy, and then occupy yourself with something that could remind you of him, or something totally random like excersising. But you could like, make him something. Idk.
Hope this helped! :)

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Anonymous #
1 year ago (6 days, 21 hours after post)

It does, thank you!

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