friendship help: so I just found out a friend of mine’s father, who recently

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so I just found out a friend of mine’s father, who

recently passed away with cancer, was charged with having an affair with one of his students - or at least sending her suggestive emails. This happened when she was about 6. i dont know if this is my place to tell her if she does not know, but it came up on a google search of her dad’s name while i was looking for his obituary and I can only imagine how easily she could stumble across it. If she knows and I tell her, this can only create hardship between us as it means I know about a side of a man she idolized that she probably doesn’t want to be well-known. What do I do?

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courtneyrockstar20 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (2 minutes after post)

my opinion is that you shouldn’t tell her especially since he just recently passed. Why taint the only memory of the man she idolized. It’s going to be a hard enough time for her and it really isn’t your place. If she stumbles across it one day then that’s that but as of right now it will only hurt her worse if you show it to her. Plus, even though you did nothing wrong, she’s going to be angry with you for finding it. She’s going to be hurting and most likely take her pain out on you and this could potentially hurt your friendship. But like I said in the beginning, it really isn’t your place to tell her.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (5 minutes after post)

thank you. By recently, I meant about 4-5 months ago, but I definitely agree.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (6 minutes after post)

That’s still recent for anyone who’s grieving, best of luck to you and I hope my advice helped some!

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Dr. Ralph 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (11 minutes after post)

Keep it to yourself. Anyone can put anything on the internet. He was charged, that sounds like he was not found to be guilty of anything. Let it be.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (11 minutes after post)

I think you better not tell her. At least not from u. You are not that close to her.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (12 minutes after post)

He was found guilty and it is an official pdf from the union he worked at. It was him and he did it. I just gotta keep it to myself then.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (14 minutes after post)

yeah that’s the best thing you could do for your friend

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Dr. Ralph 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (15 minutes after post)

Ouch. He is dead. If he was alive and she had small children you would have to tell her. Not now.

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