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One day she and I are fine.
Then it comes up that she isn’t sure about how I feel about her. A few days later she breaks up with me without any other explanation. Turns out she went with someone else at some point either before or after we broke up. I don’t know. She and I never talked as to why she and I never really talked about what happened or us or any real explanation. We went on with our lives as if nothing had ever happened. Now it’s been a month and a half since then.
We still see each other about 4 times a week. Sometimes we talk and when we do, it’s like nothing ever happen. We talk and joke around and just get along well. I am still having a little bit of trouble moving on. Part of me still wants to know what really happened between us. If it really was the thing she told me a few days before we broke up or if it was her wanting to be with someone else.
I wont deny it, I still have feelings for her and part of me still wants to be with her. But I know I shouldn’t want someone like her. I found out about some lies later on and just the idea of things I have as to why we broke up just points to her being someone I shouldn’t want to be with. But either way, I still want to talk with her about what happened.
When it first occurred I told some friends I wanted to talk to her. Some say I should, that they don’t see anything wrong with it and that I would get some closure. While others say don’t. I’ve noticed that the majority that say talk to her are close friends while the ones who say don’t aren’t as close. I never talked to her. But I still want to do it, and now I am so conflicted. I don’t know if I should or shouldn’t.
What do you think I should do? I just keep running things in my head and would like to know the truth on something’s hoping that perhaps I can stop running all these what ifs scenarios. I don’t expect to get back with her. If anything if I do this (even if I don’t) I plan on cutting all connections very soon. So basically it’s now or never to talk to her. I just don’t know if I should. I keep saying no, get over it. But then all these thoughts just go through my head. Help!!!
and if i do talk to her: Should I do it in person, or text? I’d prefer to do it in person. I can see her reactions and expressions and I feel like I’d get more honest answers.
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