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I love him, but I can’t make him love me!

Logically we make sense. He and I are extremely compatible and enjoy each other, yet we’re different enough to have strengths where the other has weakness. We are AMAZING, together, and I don’t think anyone knows him as well or believes in him as much as I do.

But…he doesn’t love me. There’s nothing either of us can do about that and it kills.

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Dragon_Lady offline Verified User (5 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (6 minutes after post)

I’m sorry. All I can say is don’t waste another minute and go find someone who does love you.

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Anonymous #
1 year ago (10 minutes after post)

That’s what my friends say. That’s what my BRAIN says! But my heart has such a hard time letting him go. I know there’s someone out there who will love me better than he ever could…but I’m not what I’m worried about. I want to be the one who loves him because I just can’t see him getting someone who cares or understands better than I do! That’s the worst part. I love him and I want the best for him and I can’t help feeling like I’m that person who will love him always and know how to help him when he’s down.

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Zirbel offline Verified User (2 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (11 minutes after post)

Dragon_Lady wrote:
I’m sorry. All I can say is don’t waste another minute and go find someone who does love you.

As she said.
You can never enforce somebody’s love …

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Dalek Karan offline Verified User (2 years, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 10 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (15 minutes after post)

Love has no Logic; you can never make anyone a friend let alone love you.
I am sorry to tell you this. Love is random, very few these days find true love.

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Dragon_Lady offline Verified User (5 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (19 minutes after post)

I just can’t see him getting someone who cares or understands better than I do!
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Ouch. Really? This man is so unloveable that NO ONE ELSE will ever love him?

If that’s true, why in hell do you want anything to do with him at all?

If it’s not, then trust him to be able to find someone who loves him just as much, and will care for him the same way you would.

You take care of you. And let him go so he can find someone who loves him, and that he loves back.

I know it hurts. I do. I’ve been there and I know that pain very well. But just stay strong, hold your head up, and look for the one who loves you and will show it.

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Anonymous #
1 year ago (38 minutes after post)

He just doesn’t look for anyone. He likes good girls but feels like no one who’s “good” would ever want him. It’s more of him giving up on love than anything :(

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Anonymous #
1 year ago (39 minutes after post)

Dragon_Lady wrote:
You take care of you. And let him go so he can find someone who loves him, and that he loves back.

This helps a lot, thank you

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~AGAPE~ offline Verified User (3 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 40 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (2 hours, 4 minutes after post)

When you force something it will become a regret and that is worse than the lack of love.. just go forward and be peaceful about letting him go.

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JackByrneHelp offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (4 weeks after post)

Listen, I’ve been in the same position myself, for four years.
It hurts, but whilst you sit there trying to make it work, tonnes of other people are trying to get your attention - there may be a better match for you still! So don’t be glum, find a chum (can’t believe I just said that) and you work things out. ;)

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miamirealestate offline Verified User (11 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 3 weeks ago (1 month, 3 weeks after post)

Don’t push your relationship with a person too hard, if its meant to be then it will happen.

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