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ive not always been overweight but after i had my child

i gained four stone and its kept going on after a series of failed diets and knocked confidence. im 5′11 and i used to be a healthy size 12 hourglass figuire now im up to 20 stone and last year someone called me fat when i was out for a birthday. i had never been called that before and it hurt. im 21 and when i go out i always feel like everyone is laughing at me and i get a nasty comment at least once everytime i go out. i lost three stone out of motivation but gained it all back after the end of a relationship. i know how to diet and excercise but whenever i get a funny look or a nasty comment all think is well whats the point in trying and go back to square one. its come to the point where i think some of my friends dont mind the fact im obese because it makes them look better. id love to have the confidence to wear a nice dress or something similar to other girls my age or at least be able to stay motivated after a rejection or put down because of my weight. but as im not used to the name calling it hurts so much. im on antidepressants now because of it. i hate going out and whenever someone chats me up i assume its a bet or a joke. what should i do to build confidence? im not ugly and when i was slim i was so confident and happy with the way i looked and i feel like this is punishment for that

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Dragon_Lady offline Verified User (5 years, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (8 minutes after post)

1) See a doctor to make sure your weight gain is not the result of something physically wrong.

2) Stop trying to diet per se, and instead change the way you eat altogether.

I like the “No S” diet:
No seconds
No snacks
No soda

Except on days that start with “S”; then be Sensible

“S” days are Saturday, Sunday, Special Occasions, and Sick days

To work properly, you must adhere to the program every single day for the rest of your life. The first month is hard; after that it’s easy.

3) Finally, stop giving a hoot about what people call you. Wear your rhino skin underpants, and just decide you are going to have a good time anyway. When you do that, your confidence will go up, and your weight won’t be such an important thing on your mind all day. When you stop focusing so much on it, you’ll find it easier to control.

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