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How do I tell someone that I love them when they hate me because I hurt them in earlier life?

A few years ago someone said that he loved me but I teased him about and took advantage of it.
Now I think that he hates me, but ironically I think that I love him now.
I know that this is all my fault but I don’t know what to do about it.
I see him pretty much everyday and we occasionally talk but not very much.
I wish we could either communicate more or even start seeing each other.
What shall I do? Should I carry on as I am as though I feel nothing or shall I approach him?
I have tried to talk to him before but didn’t really get anywhere.
I hurt him about 5 years ago - do I risk bringing it up again?
I have dreams about him too - does that mean anything?

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1 year ago (1 minute after post)

I too would like to know that.

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RoughDiamond offline Verified User (2 years) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (2 minutes after post)

Without hiding anything. Plain truth.

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (11 minutes after post)

A few years ago someone said that he loved me but I teased him about and took advantage of it.
Now I think that he hates me, but ironically I think that I love him now.
I know that this is all my fault but I don’t know what to do about it.
I see him pretty much everyday and we occasionally talk but not very much.
I wish we could either communicate more or even start seeing each other.
What shall I do? Should I carry on as I am as though I feel nothing or shall I approach him?
I have tried to talk to him before but didn’t really get anywhere.
I hurt him about 5 years ago - do I risk bringing it up again?

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SlightlyUnique offline Verified User (4 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (1 hour, 2 minutes after post)

tell them that you love them and want to make up for the damage you did in the past - and ask them to give you a chance.

then…

DON’T **** UP.

:)

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moonlightsupper offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (4 hours, 2 minutes after post)

I htink you should approach him and guage his interest first. You could try going out and talking. This will help you figure out whether or not he is still keen on you. Depending on the response you will know whether you should tell him or not.

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How do I tell someone that I love them when they hate me because I hurt them in earlier life?

Anonymous edited this post 11 months, 4 weeks ago. Read the previous text »

How do I tell someone that I love them when they hate me because I hurt them in earlier life?
A few years ago someone said that he loved me but I teased him about and took advantage of it.

Now I think that he hates me, but ironically I think that I love him now.
I know that this is all my fault but I don’t know what to do about it.
I see him pretty much everyday and we occasionally talk but not very much.
I wish we could either communicate more or even start seeing each other.
What shall I do? Should I carry on as I am as though I feel nothing or shall I approach him?
I have tried to talk to him before but didn’t really get anywhere.
I hurt him about 5 years ago - do I risk bringing it up again?
I have dreams about him too - does that mean anything?

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