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HELP my stepmum is always horrible to me and I feel like a piece of sh*t every time she says anything to me.

My Dad promised that in May 2011 he would leave her for me and my brother.
My brother always used to stick up for me when things r bad, like when she trashed my room and broke my desk.
now, my brother has moved out and she is having another baby (the first baby took over my life by putting me a low priority).
And one minuet she is nice and the next minuet she is an evil old hag!
I Just cant take it anymore!
I have tried running away before, but my brother caught me packing and made me promise I would never try to runaway ever again.
I have gone into the kitchen and picked up a knife, but just couldn’t do it. HELP HELP HELP.
I feel like a lost and empty person.

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Ahhotep online Verified User (3 years) Long Term User Shouts: 10 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (3 minutes after post)

Don’t stab your evil step mum. See if you can move in with your brother?

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Ahhotep online Verified User (3 years) Long Term User Shouts: 10 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (3 minutes after post)

Tell him how urgent it is.

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herbstk offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (4 minutes after post)

Nooooooooo, I tried to stab myself

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Ahhotep online Verified User (3 years) Long Term User Shouts: 10 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (5 minutes after post)

oh (email removed) I think if you really are going to harm yourself you must move out, call childrens services, or something. Life as we know it is over. Think of a plan.

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Anonymous #
1 year ago (9 minutes after post)

How old r u?

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herbstk offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (9 minutes after post)

Thanx, I just feel like my dad would hate me if i tried to call social services.
I’ll try the brother thing, but I dont think his landlord (he lives in digs, or a bedset, same thing) will let a 12 year old live in the house.

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herbstk offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (10 minutes after post)

im 12

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verge offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 134 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (10 minutes after post)

How old are you? Maybe you can get emancipated, get a job, and move out.

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herbstk offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (11 minutes after post)

Im only 12

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Ahhotep online Verified User (3 years) Long Term User Shouts: 10 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (12 minutes after post)

Could you go away to school?

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verge offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 134 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (14 minutes after post)

Oh gosh, you’ll have to rely on them for a few more years then. I think the best thing for you to do is become as independent and self sufficient as possible so that when the time comes you can move out. We’re here to listen, but you have to hang in there. Just think of the life you’ll have when you can leave during the bad times :)

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herbstk offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (14 minutes after post)

Good idea I could catch the bus, pack loads of extra lunch and, Live at the park or somethin.

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d-man offline Verified User (2 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (19 minutes after post)

sleep over at friends house??? camps???! tours??? Scout/ Gide camps?? and wat u call that studying in other country schools???? exchange student???

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Ahhotep online Verified User (3 years) Long Term User Shouts: 10 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (20 minutes after post)

Live at the park no. That would be worse. Think realistically.

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Ahhotep online Verified User (3 years) Long Term User Shouts: 10 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (22 minutes after post)

Give your brother a call and try to get him to listen.

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Anonymous #
1 year ago (24 minutes after post)

is she your brothers real mum?

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herbstk offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (34 minutes after post)

no me and my brother both come from the same mum.

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Silverse offline Verified User (3 years, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (1 hour, 2 minutes after post)

does she shout at u and become verbally abusive?

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herbstk offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (1 hour, 48 minutes after post)

Yeah thats it, Ive given up now (ive just been downstairs and I just dont feel like a part of my dads life anymore.
Life is too short for trying to be nice. Let it go, once you do all your problems will be solved. I dont care about anything.

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Silverse offline Verified User (3 years, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (1 hour, 55 minutes after post)

what u can do is use a dictorphone to record the way she behaves towards u and then show it to a teacher at school and ask advice

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Dr. Ralph offline Verified User (4 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (3 hours, 22 minutes after post)

Where are your dad and mom? It seems like it is their business to deal with you on a day to day level, not your step-mom. I would blame them for putting her in a position of having to deal with a step-child who hates her. Why does your father have to choose between her and you? That will never work, especially now that he has children with her. How do you treat your half brothers or sisters? You are 12, it is time to become part of the solution instead of part of the problem.

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deadbyapril17 offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (1 day, 5 hours after post)

honestly…talk it over with your dad and stepmom. you dont really have any more choices at that age

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Dragon_Lady offline Verified User (5 years, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (1 day, 6 hours after post)

CALL 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) then push 1 to talk to a hotline counselor. The Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline is open 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. The hotline counselors work with translators who speak 140 languages to help people who call and speak something other than English. All calls are anonymous. (The hotline counselors don’t know who you are and you don’t have to tell them.)

You can call this number if you live in the United States, Canada, Puerto Rico, Guam or the U.S. Virgin Islands.

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kfischbache offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (1 day, 11 hours after post)

Hi there, I was reading all the comments in response to your post. If it is really urgent contact the National Child Abuse Hotline 800-4-A-CHILD (800-422-4453) or speak to your teacher. If you want your dad and stepmom to realise what a hell-hole life has become then maybe it is time to contact Dr. Phil to open up the channels of communication. You can write to Dr Phil at:

Dr. Phil show
5482 Wilshire Boulevard #1902
Los Angeles, CA 90036

Tell Dr. Phil exactly what has been going on prior to your stepmom’s pregnancy and during her pregnancy. Maybe there is something going on between your stepmom and dad and she is misdirecting her anger at you. Good luck!

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Dr. Ralph offline Verified User (4 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (2 days, 2 hours after post)

Maybe you should just go on Jerry Springer and slug it out, Dr. Phil is a wuss.

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verge offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 134 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (2 days, 6 hours after post)

Dr. Ralph wrote:
Maybe you should just go on Jerry Springer and slug it out, Dr. Phil is a wuss.

Hahaha you’re awesome Dr. Ralph!

d-man offline Verified User (2 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (3 days, 10 hours after post)

the creator’s account has been deleted !!!!

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Ahhotep online Verified User (3 years) Long Term User Shouts: 10 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (4 days, 7 hours after post)

Because he’s twelve and too young to be on help.

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