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Senior Prom was just last night, and I made several mistakes.

The first mistake being a very wrong assumption.

The girl I had asked out(got rejected) to the last dance was also at Prom, and I had originally wanted to ask her to dance one slow dance. But to my dismay, as the first slow song played, I saw her take the hand of another guy I knew, and dance with him.
I instantly assumed she had been asked out by him, and my foul mood began to surface. I lost my appetite; and all my friends instantly noticed something wrong with me. (Never was good at hiding my emotion)

The next mistake was in part caused by the first mistake. My friends were eager to get their fortune told (At prom, they had a booth that offered it) and I wasn’t in the least bit interested. After 20 minutes of waiting, I gave up, and left my friends alone there, being the impatient and depressed guy I was. But I intended to actually begin dancing; and I did so, dancing along to horrible American pop music, and just trying to get free.

Now, the 3rd mistake is due to my friends not being there, and because I had already given up asking the girl I actually liked. She was taken, right?
I had been talking with another girl (knew her from the year before, somewhat friendly with her), and she had shared the same sentiments as I had - we had all come to prom to dance, not take pictures and get our fortunes told. So I found myself dancing to the bad music, with her nearby, with the few other people who were brave enough to take the dance floor.

And all of a sudden, a slow dance came on. And knowing that the girl I had wanted to ask was taken, knowing that my good friends were not nearby, and not caring anymore, I went and asked the other girl to dance. And she accepted.

And it was 3 minutes of happiness, and more couples took to the dance floor because of what I had done. Sort of proud.

Should be a happy ever after, but it wasn’t.

I regretted it so much.

First, I found out that the girl who was supposedly taken was not taken. The guy had just been dancing with everyone in his friend group; out of pure coincidence, she happened to be the first one he went up with.

Next, my female friends in particular were very interested in who I had asked to dance, as they had not paid attention. That got me thinking, and I realized that the girl I had danced with was probably not too popular with the other girls.

And finally, I got the flame from my best female friend, who neglected to ask any questions, but proceeded to grill me once she found out. It went something like this, with a slight changing of names where appropriate:

“Jay! How could you? There were so many girls, and you chose HER? Was it that important you got a dance from someone that you didn’t care who it was, even if you didn’t know her? God why…you could have asked a friend..you could have asked me.”

Whereas my best male buddy (who had a date) proceeded to give me a brofist, and told me not to worry about it.

I knew that the girl who I danced with wasn’t exactly popular in the first place, and I knew it was a rash decision, but what would trigger that kind of reaction from my female friends?

And what do I do now. I’ve just made everything worse. And how can I trust myself not to screw up again in the future.

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