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I’m so sorry. This happened to my friend too, it made me so so sad for her, she was surrounded by supportive people though, I can’t imagine what you feel like. I’m sorry you feel guilty, you shouldn’t, but you know you shouldn’t. I think you should let some of the people close to you know how you feel. I think you should tell your husband what you are going through, I think he’d rise to the occasion. I think you should maybe tell your mother to shut up about the everything happening for a reason thing. She is just trying to help, but that really isn’t helping you, and maybe you should let her know. I wish you the best.

i lost 3. At 12, 11 and 12 weeks. i have none. you have one. i understand your pain. for me, it has been the hardest things to bear. and trust me, ive had a lot of pain in my life quite apart from this, though everything else pales. so, i’ll just offer you a hug. idk anything i can say that could make it better. all i can say is look at your 5 year old, and a husband, you are blessed in so many ways. but yes i know it hurts. oh it hurts. let it out, cry if you want. dont hide or suppress it. if you need to talk, i am here, for as long as you need.

Life is very precarious. Some lives don’t make it out of the womb, other lives are cut drastically short in childhood or young adulthood.

I’m not going to say that things like that happen for a “reason.” I do not know why they happen. I think God will help you to make the best of it. I believe in the hereafter. I believe we will see our loved ones again.

I pray that you will receive comfort for your loss–which is a loss for all of us.

I am so sorry. I think you should open up to your husband; I know you think you’ll burden him but you are probably both feeling the same things and to be able to work through it together will be good for both of you. Don’t feel guilty; you have every right to be upset! You could have ten children, it wouldn’t make the loss of this baby any less painful or important. Open up to your husband and mother; like verge said, just tell her how to help you. Again, I’m so so sorry this has happened to you and if you need to talk I’m here.

Hun, I am sorry for your loss. I have lost three in a year and a half. I understand the pain. Some wonderful people gave me great advice when I came here during the initial hours (weeks, and months actually) after losing the first one.

Suggestions:
Plant a tree in the Baby’s honour.
Have a funeral service.
Eat well, sleep often and cry as you need to.
Communicate with people, most of all, I agree, tell your husband.
Write letters to the baby in a journal.
write your feelings in a journal.
Write a poem.
Go to counselling.
Exercise well to increase you seratonin level (which means getting sun, which has vitamin D and vitamin c.
Talk to other moms who’ve been through it.

I wrote a poem. I’ll paste it here along with on reply.

My baby is gone, I can’t ignore,
there is no re-opening of that door.
I can’t see the other side,
the baby has passed, my baby died.
I didn’t get to know that smile,
to see that face to hold my child.
I sit, I sob, I cry in pain,
I don’t think I could do this again.
No name, no hugs, no smiling face,
My baby has no resting place.
In God’s arms you are this day,
I wanted to see you grow and play.
I am so sad that you’ve gone to Heaven
I really hope to see you again.
:’(

“An Angel with the book of life wrote down my baby’s birth, and whispered as she closed the book, “too beautiful for earth”

So sorry for your loss

Firstly sorry for you loss! 
You need a councillor, proper professional help, they will listen and help you grieve. 
People have their own stuff to deal with. That’s why like your mother says ” things happen for a reason” because they don’t know how to deal with it either… 
Cry and let your partner see you mourn the death of your child. He will cry with you too! - maybe not straight away but the emotion will rise. then and only then can you truly support each other. 
Everywhere you look you will start seeing happy families, new born babies embrace those feelings and let people know at work how you feel.  They can talk with you and support you better if they know you are an emotional wreck, saying everything is a lie. I am sure your not really liar are you? Then why start to lie now… You need to cry and not hide your true feelings. 
You’ll fall pregnant again, maybe not for a few years yet, but it will happen if you work at the other issues and cuddle and cry with your partner! if not you’ll just push him away. And end up bitter!! as for your child your have now keep the brave face on but only for him :) and do things with him. Even if you don’t want too, he will, buy him a gift, something that will give him great pleasure, like a bike, where you have to be around him, and spend hours just watching him. He will see you smile again a genuine smile, and so will your partner! And build from that too. Life is precious you know that too! 

Am sorry for your loss. Know that you dont have to feel gulty for grieving for your baby because the truth is she was more real to you than to anyone else and about mornong sickness, you had every right to complain. I mean its not easy for any one. loss is not an easy thing for anybody. You need to give yourself space to feel without allowing guilt to cloud your soul. Somehow you will get through this and you will emerge stronger. Trying again doesnt mean you are replacing your lost child.

Ask your co worker to stop. Say something like, you have a very cute baby, but I would really be greatful if you could just stop sending me baby pictures. as for Facebook I come off it years ago! Give Facebook a rest for a while. Facebook does not really help.. Or avoid looking at “baby bumps” or just chat to your closest people!