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I have fairly good memory.

For some reason, there are things that my family remembers different than me and they blame it on me being younger, but that makes no sense. It’s a dumb argument, but whatever. My family remembers going to some place when I was ten and I remember not being with them then because at that age, I was always at my friend’s house and it was rare that I spent time with them, so the times that I spent with them are fairly easy for me to remember. They keep going, “no you were there”, when I say that they went without me. It feels like they’re trying to convince themselves that I wasn’t left out all the time. My family used to always go to parties, vacations, and movies without me. And it’s not like I wanted to be there anyway, but the point is that I wasn’t there and they keep acting like I was a baby then. I was ten a few years ago, so it’s not like it was something so long ago that I wouldn’t be able to remember. I don’t want to argue over it, but it annoys me how they tell me that “it’s nice that you remember it that way”, as if what I remember isn’t what happened. If what I remember is different from what they remember then can’t it just be that nobody is right? Can’t we just say whatever about it?

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DarkSnow offline Verified User (3 years, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 12 months ago (31 minutes after post)

Well, it probably doesn’t matter much, does it? =)
I have found that the memory can do strange things at times though. For example, I remember events from before I was born because I was told stories about them enough times that I can see them in my head vividly. Somehow the mind overlaps some parts of the memory and the imagination.
But when I get in arguments with people who remember something differently than me, and there’s no physical evidence to back up either person’s version, I normally don’t worry about it ^^

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mindhealer online Verified User (2 years, 12 months) Long Term User Shouts: 34 #
An Undisclosed Location | 12 months ago (1 hour, 5 minutes after post)

It could be like those optical illusion pictures that looks like an elephant until a different perception comes into being and it looks like a helicopter and you can’t see the elephant any more. You could argue with the person who sees an elephant that it’s really a helicopter, but you’ll just contradict each other and have to settle it through more decisive means, like arm-wrestling.

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