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I don’t know how to keep friends.

I suck at keeping friends. I just lost a friend. I accidently spilled his secret. I hate this. I hate my fear of confrontation. I’m not use to talking to people. I’m use to being anti-social and keeping myself locked up and being self-absorbed in my room. I don’t know how to say thank you or sorry when im suppose to and my voice is always too quiet. I did something stupid and now it hurts. I do **** like this all the time to myself. Its my own **** fault.

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I don’t know how to keep friends. I suck at keeping friends. I just lost a friend. I accidently spilled his secret. I hate this. I hate my fear of confrontation. I’m not use to talking to people. I’m use to being anti-social and keeping myself locked up and being self-absorbed in my room. I don’t know how to say thank you or sorry when im suppose to and my voice is always too quiet. I did something stupid and now it hurts. I do **** like this all the time to myself. Its my own **** fault.

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An Undisclosed Location | 12 months ago (1 hour, 9 minutes after post)

Well then, perhaps you can learn =) it takes practice, really. Saying sorry, or working through problems is difficult. Saying thank you can also be difficult.
However… if you practice doing those things it gets easier over time. Just as if you keep making new friends you’ll get better at making friends, and if you keep working on your friendships you’ll get better at keeping the friendships.
But it requires you to not give up, and to keep doing your best even when it’s hard.

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Anonymous #
12 months ago (1 hour, 11 minutes after post)

:’( thank you

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Anonymous #
12 months ago (1 hour, 16 minutes after post)

*feels so alone like there is another world outside and everyone is having fun, but i still in the background*

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An Undisclosed Location | 12 months ago (1 hour, 18 minutes after post)

Anonymous wrote:
:’( thank you

Good practice! ^^ it’s never too early to start.

Anonymous wrote:
*feels so alone like there is another world outside and everyone is having fun, but i still in the background*

Truth be told, there are many, many worlds out there. Unfortunately not everyone is having fun. Good things are the exception in the world, and bad things are more common. At least, in what I have seen. However, there is still good to be found and when you work hard you can create good in your own life. =)

For example, what do you enjoy doing? What are you good at?

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Anonymous #
12 months ago (1 hour, 19 minutes after post)

:’( idk im still trying to figure that out. im not good at anything. :’(

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Anonymous #
12 months ago (1 hour, 24 minutes after post)

ow *gets that numb painful headache feeling after i cry too much again*

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An Undisclosed Location | 12 months ago (1 hour, 25 minutes after post)

Everyone is good at something, and everyone is bad at something. ^^ Some people have more or less talents, but everyone has at least one, and everyone has at least one failing. People are pretty balanced. You just need to figure out what you are good at.
Similar to, “Remember that everyone you meet is afraid of something, loves something and has lost something.” ~ H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

For example, I know very little about you, but I know that you take responsibilities for your actions. You made a mistake, yet you admitted that it was your fault. That is a rare and admirable quality =) It will help you to grow, as long as you don’t beat yourself up too much about your mistakes.

Aww. I hope you are able to feel better. =/

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12 months ago (1 hour, 33 minutes after post)

i try to be good at math and art. Problem is i keep changing what i want to be. One day i want to be a model, then an artist, dancer, mathematician, lawyer, figure skater, physicist, accountant, statician, actress.

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An Undisclosed Location | 12 months ago (1 hour, 39 minutes after post)

That’s good ^^ if you have many interests and drives, all you have to do is pick one. Some you will be better at than others, but you need to take your time learning more about each and enjoying each of those interests until you have the information necessary to make a choice. A lot of people don’t even know what they want to do after graduating from college.
And the thing is, even if you only work at one thing as a career, you can still do everything else in your free time for enjoyment. That’s what I do =) I paint, write, create music, program, etc. Perhaps I’m not terribly great at such things, and not good enough to do them as careers =P But I still enjoy them all ^^

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Anonymous #
12 months ago (1 hour, 46 minutes after post)

Okay. Thank you so much!

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An Undisclosed Location | 12 months ago (1 hour, 51 minutes after post)

You’re quite welcome (and again, good practice ^^)
I hope that you feel better and aren’t as sad. Keep looking for the good in your life and see what you are good at, keep making friends without giving up, and things will go all right =)
God bless ^^

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