relationship help: Is it really wrong to look in your significant others phone? - Help.com

Yes.

I dont think so. If there is something going on, you have the right to know. No body deserves to have their heart played with.

If you do not trust your partner, then get out.

I was very interested to hear someone talking on the radio about human rights, then concluding they do not exist.

Right and wrong are constructs, it benefits our parents and teachers to give us this sense.

In the scheme of things their is no morality issue.

What is is is a question of personality.

Do own this other person, do you feel threatened if they had any secrets from you.
Would what you find cause more issues than it is worth.

It is clear from Help.com that texte and phone conversations get misinterpreted, even between the intended recipients.

My personality would dictate that I just dont want to know.

If yours makes you look the end result of what you find is what you deserve.

Dont strengthen your relationship through blame culture, their are lots of more use positive reinforcement.

Other wise you may ruin your relationship when the “other” is just having a tempory flirt.

What is “need to be issued” sometimes need to let them sleeping dogs lie

so, did you find out whether your suspicion was right or not? snooping is uh, a great way to start spiraling downhill. if there’s a problem you talk about it like adults(which i’m assuming you are. if not, well…). if they(your significant other) can’t talk to you about this for whatever reason, i would suggest them getting help from whom they are conformable in order to deal with it and further better the relationship. if both of you truly see a future together i’d probably also suggest couples/marriage counseling(or something similar), as ideally they would be able to talk to you about anything and vice versa.

I didnt do it, Ive just read so many posts; someone looking, and responders telling them that they are wrong for looking, and finding out their partner is having an affair.
Why would you be in the wrong for finding out? Im not saying that they are innocent in teir relationship, since all relationships are different. But if their partner has already mafe other plans. Shouldnt they know about it?

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I’ve always thought it was wrong. If you feel that you can’t trust your partner maybe you should just get out, whether you’ve looked at the phone or not.

Yes it is! It’s a betrayal of confidence of course.

this is probably one of those things most ppl(that i know at least) would say they wouldn’t do knowing they totally would in real life. myself included i suppose.

If the significant other has secrets and not open about it and when he/she is questioned feels uncomfortable talking about it, you know you were right, without snooping. Either you discuss it and he/she will change, or you change partners and forget about the secretive significant other. Relationships are built on trust and not on being secretive and have affairs online.

Yes, it is wrong, unless you have their permission.

you shouldnt look at your partners phone but what you could do is just take it while theyre there and run into the bathroom and lock the door. dont look at whats on it but see what his/her reaction is

If you look in enough hen houses, a fox you shall find….

Wow thats some really good input. How about how someone said. Unless they say it’s okay. III s it really okay to take em up on that offer?

Anonymous wrote:
Wow thats some really good input. How about how someone said. Unless they say it’s okay. III s it really okay to take em up on that offer?

Yes. If they say it is ok to look, you can look.