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Hey all, this is kind of an awkward situation, but here goes.
I have this odd domination/facesitting/wrestling fetish, and it’s kind of taken over my sex life. I’m twenty years old, I’m a pretty normal guy, but this cripples me. I was raised in a pretty conservative home, with a father who was often gone, and when he was around, was pretty violent (my stepmom was no better). I moved out and lived with my mom until I graduated, my mom treated me well but I never got the sex talk or anything from my family. My cousin also touched my penis a few times and showed me his and told me to touch it (**** my youthful naivete) , I didn’t realize how messed up it was at the time because I was a kid, but that might have affected more than I know. I was an awkward kid, and so I didn’t do too well around women. The only thing I knew of sex was when I hit puberty, I had my first wet dream and my face was in the pillows when I woke up, and for some reason I associated them with breasts. From then on, throughout my teenage years, I’d get hard by smothering myself (I know, it’s odd), and I didn’t really know much about porn, so I didn’t really see too much of what people consider “normal” sex. Sometimes I’d wrestle around with girls and I’d be really aroused when they were on top of me, or putting my face between their legs or what have you. I find it really hard to get an erection when I’m with a girl in a typical sexual, my penis might get hard but then usually it just sorta fades before anything happens. I have noticed if my penis is near a girl’s vagina, it sometimes get hard, but I’m still a virgin because until pretty recently, I had no confidence around women. The thing is, I’m a good looking guy, and I do a lot of flirting with a lot of girls (not bragging though…I’m still a virgin, ha.) I really want to experience some new things and have a healthy sex life. I guess I’m just trying to figure out what to do. I know my past and my awkward teenage years (then again, aren’t all teenagers awkward?) have a lot to do with my current problems. Does anyone have any suggestions? Sometimes I can get aroused by looking at “normal” porn or when I talk to/touch a breathtakingly gorgeous woman, but it’s still very frustrating most of the time. Thank you so much for reading, and if you’re going to be a jerk and troll me, go ahead. I need some amusement. To those of you who will offer solid advice, or at least attempt you, thank you in advanced.
Also, I’m dating someone, and I adore her, but we haven’t actually talked about this. She doesn’t mind my wayward penis, but I know that some girls will, and since I’m only twenty I’m trying to be a realist here. Most people my age don’t have the longest lasting relationships, sadly.
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