I want to know am i a bad person for helping people out, for making people laugh and smile and neve ract rude against all. I had to get away from a girl taht i was online chatting and helping her to feel her self esteem higher, but i did the getting away as she made me get worse feeling, as whenever i keep going and say she is going up and fight depression and the self esteem, she keeps saying am i still want to be with her, i tried to tell her that personality always catch eyes not health medical problem, as i got also diabetes so never mind her pressure or the whole depression she got. I always get an online relationship which always sucks and make me swear i will neve rget into one but dang get myself into one,so am i abd person for stopping it as i told her i can’t keep doing and going the way we are as it is harsh to keep helping your who love but the one who you love always can’t help themselves.
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I think you did the right thing. Depending on how long you’ve been trying to help her, and she still has these issues, it was right to end things. If she had been getting help in person and perhaps taking medication, when you tried to help her should have done something. But it’s obvious that you weren’t helping her. She needed to stop relying on you and get real help. So, NO, you are not a bad person.
Thanks, As hell i tried my best for real, even asked her to change Dr and therapy and she finally did changed Dr and therapy and she is getting real serious help, But she makes me feel like i am a bad one for trying my best to lift her spirit that up and her always ask me do you wnat to keep involved with me? that question when keep asking me made me think that she want me to feel miserable as same way as she feels, although i told her when said it is over that i will keep pray for her to feel healthy. I just wish i never get again in any relationship through net as it makes me really get my heart shattered and i try to keep relationship keep going but they keep pushing and pressing until i get explode and do get away from their way. Thanks for the reply by the way.
No problem :l) and yea, online and far away relationships are difficult. Alot of it is cause of the people thought, not cause of the distance. Maybe try face to face relationships for a chance, i think it’d be a nice change for you. Maybe even stress relieving.
I am talking with her right now, and really think of that if she stopped asking constantly if i will stay or still wnat to stay with her any longer cos of her medical problem , it will be the end of it, as i told her don’t ask me about that any more cos if i never ever wanted to be involved with her, wouldn’t i give her my facebook details or my cell so we can keep up even when i am outside of the house, hope that she knows that i always give chances until i have had it start stepping away as i need her to start thinking about her life and don’t say always she is like can’t do any effort to work things out and to feel much better, a si am helping myself through medical problems of diabetes and need to know she will do same not always ask these questions if we can still stay together.
So, is she supporting you too with your medical problems? cause if she’s not and just focusing on herself and constantly asking you about herself she’s not worth the pain. To me that just sounds like she wants attention. And since you are talking to you, there can at least still be a friendship, just not a relationship.
I am still giving her second chance, as she got three chances as i always do support her and wish she support me back, and she knows about my medical situation as well and know that i get pissed off and mad while sugar in blood low, so said that she is sensitive but can try to understand. I wish if happened and we met in person if my sugar in blood was low and see if she will handle it with cautious and understanding my situiatio or will freak out and run a hell away from where i stay that will mean i stick for her medical situation but she can’t do that as i do that always in real life and online to keep her feel she is great and smile and always feel happy.
And that’s very sweet of you :) I believe in second chances too. Is there any way you guys could meet in person?? You just need to forewarn her that she might feel different in person. And depending on how she responds to that, things might just work out :)
She told me about she is always shy when meet someone in person at first time, so i understand that as for me i am so easy going that people can’t imagine that i would be talking with you while never saw you before lol :p, as i am like butterfly run cross rooms and keep talking to all with no burden lol :P. Thanks and i wish for real that things work out as been into that much so wish myself the best to come out of this relationship.
Hope everything works out coolguy_257. You seem like a nice guy and she should try better to keep you :)
Thanks :), And i am only me and try my best to show her support and she is always make bees hunt me when say i am sweet lol :P.
lmao, that’s adorable :D
He he :P, don’t say the word as poor face got a lot of bees bite lol ;).
Good :) no word he he :D, so how is the weather over there?
eh, hot in ohio :P and very humid. Nice and sunny tho :D Can’t wait for summer. wbut?
It is hot but acceptable for me right now, and no humid as hell it will make me rip clothes off my skin to feel much better lol :p, I think that Egypt will get smoking hot after 20 days or so as it is heating up here.
Swimming would be nice.
The club is far away and i just do the porch sun bath my Bella female dog as she like the sun lol :p, and me always do the walk at the bathroom and have some cold water to spend and enjoy shower :).
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