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So i met up with an old friend today…
. we had a huge break up in the past, but its okay now though, she kept talking about my ex, was she doing this to annoy me :/ or isit me just thinking negative? i really dont like talking about him, she dosent know this… but he sexually abused me… hes an idiot, its like i have two side of feelings for him i hate him for what he did and
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If your friend does not know it was not to purposely annoy you. You are not being negative but perhaps there are unresolved issues and feelings you still have with him.
It may actually help to talk about it with your friend or someone else about him.
Abuse is never acceptable.
i think she was jealous of you with him in the past, she might have had something to do with it and is trying to find out if you know?, or she wants to track him down now for herself,
anon what the hell makes you think that?
ahh, it’s just a thought, i don’t know her, you do - she’s rubbing something in your face, no?
well, she says she dosent like to talk to him anymore, and apparently he ‘misses her’ and they were just like brother and sister. apparently there were rumours that she was jealous… she used to act it sometimes, but the thing now, is that she she just keeps bringing his name up and telling me things about how he cheated on his other ex and how he had a fling with my friend, and im sitting there thinking ‘i dont care!!!!’ i dont want to hear his name, i want to keep him in the past, he makes me sick, hes a jerk, i’ve had horrible experiences with him, so u understnad why i wouldnt want to talk about him or hear his name, right?
she hardly says anything bad about him, even the fact that he cheated, she didnt say anything like ‘hes such a jerk’ she just talks aboout it but its like she justifies his actions or like its okay to do that
ahh, yeah, she bonked him already, probably one time and he showed no interest in her, or she wants to - and she is not your friend, jealous and mean spirited about you, that’s why she brings up his name and his actions whenever she sees you, to rub it in your face, tell her just what you said above, that that was then and you don’t care to hear about him anymore, thank you, you’ve moved on. Then walk away, cause she’s not your friend. She will sabotage anything she learns about you, watch. But don’t let her get you down - you survived the jerk, great. Now get rid of this pest and life will be much better :)
thanks anon, yeah i feel wierd around her all the time to be honest :/ shes always boasting about her life to me its really annoying and shes always trying to get ‘close’ to me… suddenly messaging me or phoning me randomly asking me about her life, like for **** sake i dont want to get close to her :| and i cant be that close to her so suddenly :|
umm, did you ever watch that movie single white female? not the new one, the original. I’d start ignoring her calls to every now and then, and then to nothing ..) some people are just leeches and if they latch onto you as a quiet docile mind your business don’t flaunt your beauty or personality that like to take advantage and poke you just cause of their insecurities. You can’t help her by trying to be friendly, that just feeds her nutcase (haha) just slowly steer clear
…personality they like to take advantage, sorry typo
yeah, i think your so right, its like you’ve been watching me this whole time.
she really is insecure, and shes taking her insecurities out on me. she boasts about her self so much, that it actually gets boring
*smile, no not watching you, been there, seen that. She is soo insecure, so bringing people down is her way, not a good person, and will never admit to anything, trust me again and steer clear - if she knows she’s affecting you, it could only make her happier in her warped mind … good luck moving past both of them ~ E
thanks eunique, yeah i think she knows shes affecting me which is the annoying part.
she actually reminds me of my scary manipulative ex. she was even comparing my phone to her phone, saying how hers is better in so many ways.
i am going to try and take your advice but its hard, her family is a family friend of mine and she’s just asked me to come on a trip somewhere with her and shes going to be inviting me to her birthday do. :/
so i cant really completely avoid her
hi there, umm, sorry, yeah close connections will keep you around, hope you can ease your way out of her reach outside of the family things, try not discussing your life and not reacting when she hits a nerve … just say things like why do you always have to compare everything, we’re not in competition? things like that, tell her you’re not interested in what or who your ex is doing and don’t want to hear about it, i’ve grown past that, thanx, i’m gonna stop talking to you cause all you want to do is bring up x, are you trying to hurt my feelings?, let’s move on - statements like that will help her think a little better when she’s home alone and maybe she’ll pick up onthe idea of being her own person, cross your fingers (haha) ~ E
thankssss, erm do you think i should go with her to this trip thing? or just tell her im busy? shes so unhealthy for me, she brings all these negative emotions in me like anger and it KILLS me.
i’ll try not to show her anymore that im being effected.
urgh, the day i was with her all she started doing was ******** about people aswell, its just leaves me to think is she just going to somehow twist my words and make me look bad. she really is a cow.
shoot, why go on vacation with a cow? (hahaa,) depends on if you really want to see or be at that location, although i got a feeling she’ll cloud the best of locations, ehh, up to you. If it’s going to cost you money i don’t think i’d pay for misery. I’d turn the trip down. You need to firm up your i’m tired of your attitude about life stance first, ease on, down the, road …
well, i would really like to go, its for free, a family member of hers is getting us in… im considering maybe going, see what her attitudes like and if shes pushing any limits be abit harsh and then make final decisions on her.
yep, go, have a good time, relate with the other family folk, drop a few sentences on her if or when appropriate, in a nice way, but definitely meaning it. Time for her to grow up, you have … hope you have a good time,
Thanks eunique i do too. thanks alot for the advice
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