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I really want a baby, & I think Im ready & I’d like some opinions !

Heres my story first ..
Im 20, I will be 21 next spring. Me & my boyfriend have been together for almost 4 years, we have a great relationship but as all couples do we have our fights & what not but we always work everything out. We both work, he has two jobs & I have one. Im planning on doing some online courses or going to a local school to become a Veterinary Assistant or a Medical Assistant, most likely this September. We live with my parents but the house is big 2 floor plus an attick & basement, I have the entire basement to myself which is 2 finished rooms one is my bedroom & the other is a living room. I know everyones gonna say your too young just wait get married first & all that, but I look at it as I’ve done almost everything I started partying & drinking when I was very young I’ve had my share of boyfriends & what not & I’ve done a bunch of crazy stuff & now its getting old to me Im kind of like okay whats next ? I used to look foward to going out & getting drunk every weekend but this past year & a half I just want something more out of life & I cant stop thinking about babies. I love children I always have I love taking care of them, playing with them everything. I understand being a parent is a 24/7 job, but Im willing to do it. I want to do it. & Lately so many young girls around me have been having babies & its just like if they can do it why cant I ?

Opinions & advice please :)

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southern_comfort offline Verified User (7 years) Long Term User Shouts: 200 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (24 minutes after post)

In the first year of a childs life expect to pay at minimum $7530.00. From 0 to 18 that will cost you $261,512.00. That is for a totally healthy, no problems child. It does not include emergency room visits, hospitalization for lengthy illnesses, vacations, fines and or bail bondsman.

Expensive? Yeah…. But money is the least of the issues. What about you? Will you be able to be there for every single hour for this one child for 18 years with no issues of your own? No post partum depression. No problems with your mate/spouse? No health issues for 157,680 hours non-stop?

Something to think about.

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izzitd offline Verified User (3 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 2 minutes after post)

Agreed,this is not a good idea. You would be much better served by finishing your schooling and not becoming another statistic. Oh yes and 20 is NOT old…not even close. You are still practically a child yourself. I think the line that should clue it in for you is ‘living at my parents house’. If you can’t even support yourself on you own…what makes you think you will be able to support a child?

You are quite obviously not thinking clearly…but thinking like…a 20 year old. Bad bad bad bad idea.

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Wyyldfairy offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 59 minutes after post)

Can you afford to have a baby? have you a house where you can live…space for the baby? money to clothe and feed the baby and yourself and your partner…is your bf willing to have a baby? do you have a support system in place from friends/family? do you or your bf have a full time job?

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spiratec9 offline Verified User (5 years, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
Burnaby, BC, CA | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (4 hours, 49 minutes after post)

What is your total income?

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PeaceLoveOnEarth offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (16 hours, 24 minutes after post)

Only if you can afford it and if your boyfriend and your parents are ok with it. I’m not sure if your parents would want a newborn child crying every night in their house…

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