friends help: I’ve been having a crappy couple of months. - Help.com

you said u want to live your life only caring about yourself. from the sounds of things that could be the best thing you can do right now. you need to make changes that will make you a happier person. if this means distancing yourself away from everyone then u should do so. and while u are on ur own, find things that make you happy, truely happy not things that make you think ur happy but bring you down later. and once its all over and your happy then you can come back to your family and they will see you diffrently, they will see you as a happy and independent person.

I know that you’re right. I distanced myself for a couple of months and i don’t know. I’m a strong person on the outside but i’m the biggest softie on the inside. I don’t know how to live for just me. I’m always thinking about someone else over myself. I always end up getting hurt because of it. I don’t know how to change.

My brother said some really hurtful things to me today. I pretended I was just fine all day but I’ve been crying on and off for the past 8 hours. I don’t know. I just don’t know.

Seems like you’ve spent the first part of your life doing the same as me- realizing what you don’t want. It’s hard to feel so denied and alone- being left out is one of the worst feelings in the world. But, you are there for a reason. These people that are leaving you behind, unless it is for some reason in which they have clarity (if you’re a negative addition; this I do not believe to be the case)- these people are doing it so that you will get pushed away and find people that deserve, love, and respect you. Everyone desires and deserves these things equal to what they put out. If you’re putting out good to the world- it will come back to you in forms of friendships, loves, and moments of extreme optimism. In short, don’t give up. You’re being shut out of your world to go find a new one full of things which will make you wonder how you were ever so doubtful- and why you wasted your time being unhappy. But, this was not wasted time. This, right now, will get you to the latter. So now you’ve got some thinking to do. Make lists of things you love, things that inspire you, people who are good- and even make lists of the bad if you want. Either way you’ve got to take some walks and get outside your comfort zone and figure out how you can take this clean slate and paint it with things that will let you be yourself- and not get shut out. We’re here for you in the meantime- but this isn’t easy. And trust me, I can relate on the family aspect… It’s hard to not have those to turn to whom are simply always supposed to be there for that. But, you’ve got family somewhere, waiting for the same kind of thing. Just have hope and give every day the fresh start it deserves, not another slammed door.

turn to music. thats what i do. find hope and faith, and everything else you need in music. i tell people in times of depression, or sad anger listen to florence and the machine. my teo favroit songs by them are heavy in ur arms, and seven devils. try that real quickl look both those songs up and listen to them and tell me if it helps you any. if not, maybe try a diffrent type of music, or it none of that helps then find something to occupy ur thoughts with but hey u wont know till u try, so plz listen to those to songs, and let me know if it helped. it will only take a few minutes.

Thanks guys this helps a lot. I’m calming myself down lol.

I’m going to have to reinvent myself slowly I guess but it reassuring that I’m not the only one that feels this way.

I’ll listen to the songs stone-wolf ^_^

More comments are appreciated. I just need to think about this and my next plan for myself for a while.

What kind of music do you like?

Ummmm I love instrumentals, florence + machine, red hot chili peppers, eminem, dido, lady antebellum coldpay, linkin park, christian…..basically anything that’s not hardcore country or all-american rejects LOL

Well so much for the anonyous button haha…but it’s not like i have anything to hide anyway. wahoo.

yea, were all here to help, not judge.

have you listened to: explosions in the sky- your hand in mine, you might like Dr.Dog- start with heart it races, but all his stuff is super different, and in my opinion, awesome. if you like rap you should look up the typical cats.

Thanks again stonewolf and holaitsemm. I started doing a little bit more for myself today. I keep catching myself doing things just to make others happier. I know this isn’t a bad thing but I’m teaching myself to limit how much of myself I give to others so I can have more time improving things for myself.

thats a good start