gay help: My son is gay, how do i make him straight again - Help.com

Im sorry to hear about your son being gay. Umm if he wants to be gay then let him be gay there is nothing wrong with that at all.. ..

Love him and accept him. Pray for him.

Read the Bible - see what it says about homosexuals -

ummm…..you can’t.

if he’s gay he’s gay.

it’s not a bad thing or a sin or whatever a lot of people say it is.

try you’re best to accept him for who he is and not who you want him to be.

he’s youre son and he needs your love and support now more then ever

you should not try to change him.
if you love and or care then you should talk to him and make him understand how you feel about his choice.

don’t try to change him.

If your son is gay, here are some suggestions:

Take him aside and tell him that it is completely unacceptable to be gay, and that his choice will result in a lonely isolated, and sad life. Then read him some passages from the bible regarding the abomination of man to man sex. If that doesn’t work, tell him that if he takes any further steps in this direction, you will show up every night and day banging at his door and demand he give up this folly. If that still doesn’t work, explain that you will cut him off from any inheritence, and write him out of any will or trust you may have. If after all of this, he still does not mend his ways, inform him that you will disown him and sever all contacts between him, yourself and any other member of your family. If he still persists turn your back on him as if he does not exist.

Whats wrong with it in the first place? I wouldn’t suggest this. Take your son for who he is.

If your son is homosexual, you can use the reparative therapy, or to maybe take him to some religious conference that tries on these topics.
I have read on homosexuals that come closer to God and they end up to become heterosexuals, although it is a long process that requires all disposition on the part of your son, and all the love and support possible from the family.
Please, excuse my spelling lacks, I am Latin.

My friends gay and i love him

I am girl

a straight girl

it is genuinely sad that some individuals feel the need for you to turn your back on your son just because you can’t accept his lifestyle! I suggest geting some therapy and I am not talking about your son, either.

i don’t understand why you think being gay is bad at all and its not like an illness that you can cure….trust me your son needs you at this point in his life i wish i would have had support from my parents and i didn’t so at then end of the day trust me he needs you and if you do love him, love him for who he is and not for his sexuality ….honestly speaking we are no different from you accept that we have feelings for the same sex imagine if someone tried to convert you to become gay i’m sure you would protest as its in your own biological and mental make up that your straight and that works vica versa for your son…if you can do one thing for your son its to be there for him and sometimes things like this can be a phase and if not, he’s not gonna change for you and if you make him i don’t think he will ever be truly happy..take this from a boy going through the same situation as your son but born into a family who hates gays ..he just needs you support

Love your kid for who he is.

God mad him perfect in his own image, gay or straight.

all **** should die a long and painful lonely death

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I think you should just love him :( Don’t try to change him, because if you do, you would not give him perfect happiness.. His perfect happiness would be loving a guy which also loves him… I’m sorry to tell this, I myself also being gay, but I can’t help my self to change… I tried more than thousand times… As me friends always give advise to me, but I just can’t… But they do love me and accept me… The Hardest thing for me is to fine love.

That’s all.. Please accept him.. Because I can feel what he feel :(

Yo this web site sucks!!!!!!!!

to all the mothers who ask this question:

I am a some christian mother’s gay son.

You better love him. I don’t care what you believe is right or wrong, you love him and treat him like he deserves to be treated. Perhaps you should also investgate the number of gay teen suicide from “problems” like this one.

My parents gave me the whole therapy thing, and guess what… it didn’t work.
I know I’m gay, and there is nothing wrong with it at all.

theres nothing wrong with being gay, its just something thats there, and no matter what your chil can NOT stop being gay, trust me on that

I KNOW!!!

I have just found out my son is gay and feel so sad as if someone has died. I have spent the past week in a dream world, going from feeling angry to tearful and yes even denial hoping it would all just go away.My son is at university and rings home daily which has made things worse as I keep up a happy front for him as would not hurt him for the world because no matter what I love him. His father has always been anti gay and I can tell you this has been a kick in the teeth for him, we have sat up until the early hours trying to make head way with what we feel is a mess, I keep trying to find help on the net but the more I read the more confused I feel, My son must have felt so alone trying to make sense of his feelings all I can do for now is trust in one thing and that is both myself and my husband love our boy more than life its self and as long as he knows this I know we will get through this difficult time. I think what I am trying to say is love him for who he is and don’t try to change what you cannot.

Its a v. good question in my opinion b/c SOME guys DO love women more than men, but aren’t sexually excited by women unless certain situations are present. Its funny, I didn’t even know about ‘homosexuality’ until I was in middle school and never thought about gay hookups until they became available with independence..This is realy the other side of the argument.
If he is relatively slender in size, maybe give him a gym membership or suggest picking up a sport or watching espn. When males recieve pleasure from their anal erogenous zone or another male’s phallus, it doesn’t mean their childhood dreams of spending their lives with alicia silverstone do not deserve a chance, it just means it might be a bit more challenging.

I will never accept it. It is wrong, immoral and a abomination to God’s order!

My Son is Gay he is 16, we knew from an early age,
All you bible thumping idiots out there I will explain this to you. You do not choose to be gay…. I have practically just read the witch hunts over again on here and cannot believe that such ignorance abounds. You are either extremely stupid or live in a cloud.
If your Son is gay I know exactly how you are feeling,but you obviously love him else you wouldnt be posting here. He is your child who cares what his sexual orientation is?
To the rest of you on here preaching the bible i say this to all “LET HE WHO IS WITHOUT SIN CAST THE FIRST STONE”.
and as for being an abomination of gods order,dont be so absolutely ridiculous its more of abomination in gods eyes to turn your back on your child.
We are not living in the 15th century any more,go outside and look around and basically get a life !!!!!

take him aside, beat him up till he get straight again…ALL THAT IS PLAIN JUNK, listen you cannot change your son, he will change if he wants to, I am bisexual and might understand how your son is, mine is just a decision I make, you know neither you nor anyone speak with the voice of god, and the bible isn’t always clear about these things, people always have many interpretations and different beliefs about this sort of things. maybe being gay isn’t the complete way that God intended at all.

but remember that god love all his children, and if your son is a good person being gay isn’t going to keep him out of heaven.

now think how your son feels? don’t you think he is scared too, about Anti gay protestants, homophobic persons, and laws that always change about this things, he must be a scared too, and he is your son, he loves you but I think he is also afraid that you might hate him for being gay.

my best option is that you talk with him, and support him. no one is sure about how you become gay, some others become around their 40’s too, even though before they were married or straight, be a loving father, and love your son very much

My son is also gay, I found out when he was 15 yrs. I though that maybe he would grow out of it, but that wasn’t the case He’s 18 yrs and now he is more gay than ever. I hate it. My son is a young men, he talks, act and looks like one too. But he likes gay guys. I still love him and I told him that I just want him to be happy. But I was lying. I want my boy back it hurts me eavry day I can’t sleep but I don’t let him know that. I don’t want him to be un-happy cuz of me. The only think I could do is Love him. Even if it means been the joke in town.

ya- y son was gay…there is a way to “fight” it - long process. he did it though..good luck

hey…
gay can create HIV or AIDS
all basic teaching in all reigion said gods give us sick and make us not sick.
so god give HIV or AIDS to the gays.
This obviously means our creator hates gay.
sorry for the speling lack.
so the term ‘there are nothibg wrong with gay” is totally wrong.
Im Malaysian.

im a gay and ****** proud of it, **** the bible **** god and **** you idiots the posted your dumbass comments, pobably the same ****** idiots who voted for baracko bama ***** ***, i wish all you idiots would say theese ignorent comments to me in person so i could **** your day up and put you in the propper mind frame of living your OWN ****** life and please dont think you can say a comment such as your gay i could beat you up anyday, if you knew or saw a picture of me maybe you would second that get at me !

Grrr you guys just dont fu***** get it do you!!!!!!

God!!! made us this way!!!!!

sorry part of it got cut out because i cursed allow me to finish

FU** THE BIBLE ITS A LOAD OF SH** IF GOD WANTS TO MAKE US THIS WAY THEN ITS WHO WE THE FU** ARE AND IF YOU DONT ACCEPT US THEN FU** YOU TO HE**

i ponder suicide every day i slit my wrists every night and unless you wat your kid like that then accept him….just please accept him no one else should EVER become like me just…just let him have a happy life PLEASE okay? he deserves it

I’m 22 years old and gay. It makes me so sad to hear parents say “how can I fix him.” There is nothing to fix. Its parents like this that make their gay children commit suicide…I should now, my best friends parents did the same thing to him and now he is no longer with us. I just wish parents could love their kids regardless. I hope things will eventually change. Love your kids, you never know when they will not be around any longer.

Sham

it is depend upon the gay ,gay can change his mind when he is in the starting stage,if he is in final stage also he will change himself,its depend upon mind of gay,i changed gay to straight

All mother ******* gays rot in hell!!! yuck!!! u guys r not born that way.. u choose t be that way!!! ******* morons!!!
Perverts!!! y cant u ******* b urselves??huh?
I tell ya lady, kill him.. thts the only cure.. make it fast.. rather than c him rot in hell with all the other **** ******* gays!!!
Accept it ma ***!!!
******* ******* fuckkiiiingggggg gays!!! yuck! yuck!yuck!

My 19 year old son told s he is gay, I dont understand what went wrong in his life, What are the kids doing to the parents the pain like all a parents dream for his child is gone. Think about the situation and we must still be proud of Gays, not in this life time, get a life……,

It is people like you that make me absolutely disgusted and pissed off beyond belief. You think this is a choice?! You think he sat on his bed one day and said “Hm….I think I’m going to go gay?!?!” NO! Why would he choose to be gay when sick ignorant people like you exist?! I know he’s your son and it’s going to be incredibly hard to accept that he’s gay, but do you honestly not love him at all?! Do you want to lose that connection with your son by casting him out and treating him as if he as some kind of contageous disease?
God, I swear. You should’ve been raised right. I know I’m coming off as extremely rude, but you need a wakeup call. A real slap to the face might help as well. My aunt and four of my friends are gay and as a non religious child growing up around mormons and christians I am SO SICK of hearing this argument. So accept the facts, go pray for the children in africa or something, and get a life. If you were ANYTHING close to a good mother, you’d love your son no matter what.

you cant change someone for who they really are.
i mean would you prefer him to be really miserable in a relationship with a woman?
i believe people should become more educated about gay people and try not to judge them too easily…………..i mean we,re all human after all!

Windowsmanager4, you’re SERIOUSLY disgusting.

Hey lady, what the hell is wrong with you? Why would you even think about doing something so irrational without even thinking about your son’s feelings? Okay first of all, what makes you think you change your son’s sexuality. Someone’s oreintation is not something that you can change simply. On the flip side, that would be like me asking how to turn a straight person gay, or how to turn you into a lesbian. It’s the same thing, except it’s in reverse. You know who you are, and your son knows who he is.

And second of all, why would you want to change your son’s orientation? Even though he is still your son, he is also his pwn person. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with him, whether if he is gay or not. And you of all people should be the most accepting of him. Seriously, who the heck cares what other people might think of you, your family, or your son. If theey are going to talk about you and especially your son in a negative manner, you shouldn’t even be affiliated with those poeple. Get rid of them and move with your life. Are you really going to destroy the relationship with son just so you won’t get looked down upon and get laughed at by. Your son is a part of your family and you should care a whole lot more for him than you should about the thoughts of the other judging ignorant people.
Even though it’s been more than two years since your question has been posted, I seriously hope that you come back to this website and read my comment. Because, I’m sorry if I’m being a little forward and blunt, but I hope you think twice about this bararic question that you created.

**** gays

100% You can change your son to become hetrosexual. Try to find out the reason he has become gay. Please go thru these websites peoplecanchange.com and narth.com would give you some picture how to help your son. May be childhood abuse or lack of father love and affection could casued him become homosexual. You need to love your son, give him a hug and say you are there with him always. Most of the parents in this world making mistakes that either father does not show his love for their sons properly. Father physical contact is very important for a son… otherwise he may for tht love to someone else due to his insecurity or depression may turn him to be gay. I am 30yrs old becoz of my sexual abuse at my early age of 8-12 yrs and lack of father love caused me to going thru some sort homosexual feeling towards only oldermen. i hate that and it has caused me a depression for 15 years. i have approached some father figure people to help me out but no one interested. Please do help your son may not like to be gay, must going thru lot of depression. I am from india here it very difficult to take help from peoples are very afraid to support some one. Please go thru the above mentioned website sure you can give new life to your son.

That was just maddd dumblove him. are you kidding me?
Your going to die one day thiunking at one point in your life you doubted your son just cause he like penis.get over itttt!!!