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Perhaps both of you were having a rough day. When was the last time you talked to him?

maybe you should apoligize to him. chances are he will say he is sorry to and it should go back to normal

Eh, it happens from time to time =) Instead of waiting for things to get better though, you can make things better. Just talk to him sometime and try to work things out.

I’ve said some mean things to people I care about in my life. It happens.

it was a few weeks ago, since then i have spoken to him, like when he has to mark my work and things like that, i’ve notices we dont really say ‘hi’ outside of lesson as much anymore, he seems kinda grumpy these day i dont if its because he has alot of his own personal issues going on at the moment….

i dont really have anything to say sorry for, its not my fault i didnt understand, that why i came to him…. so he could help me

….maybe i should just try to act normal as much as i can?

not take it as a personal thing? maybe he was just having a bad day?

“What you are saying is really important, but how you are saying it is affecting how I’m understanding it. Can you please stop talking to me like a douche-bag?”

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Tictactomm wrote:
“What you are saying is really important, but how you are saying it is affecting how I’m understanding it. Can you please stop talking to me like a douche-bag?”

erm , you want me to say that to him next time ? lol

when this happened i didnt say anything to him, i just went quite and walked out, because it was end of lesson.

So you consider him almost a friend, right?
What do you do when a friend does this and acts as if they have a problem.

Personally, I go to them and ask them what problems they’re facing that are making them sad or bothering them. =) I care for my friends, and if they seem to be having a problem, I ask them if I can help.

woah…. erm yeah hes like a cool teacher and all but i dont know if its really my place to be asking him about all his troubles. maybe i could just ask him one , ‘you okay. you loko abit worried these days? ‘ (?)

DarkSnow wrote:
So you consider him almost a friend, right?
What do you do when a friend does this and acts as if they have a problem.

Personally, I go to them and ask them what problems they’re facing that are making them sad or bothering them. =) I care for my friends, and if they seem to be having a problem, I ask them if I can help.

Heh. I still have the mentality of a college student. Sorry ^^
Still, yeah, I’m sure he’d appreciate the concern.

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Tictactomm wrote:
“What you are saying is really important, but how you are saying it is affecting how I’m understanding it. Can you please stop talking to me like a douche-bag?”

erm , you want me to say that to him next time ? lol

when this happened i didnt say anything to him, i just went quite and walked out, because it was end of lesson.

His job is to teach you, not vent on you. I would totally lay that out for him. Something tells me he’ll own it and apologize. You don’t have to say douche-bag though, if that doesn’t work for you.

As I teacher, I know that I really appreciate that kind of feedback from students. I would find a time outside of class where you can approach him (although try not to have it too isolated from the rest of the school, etc.), and let him know that you are feeling uncomfortable in class because of what happened a few weeks ago. Let him know that normally you really appreciate his support, and it felt hurtful when he lashed out at you, especially knowing the struggles you’ve been having. If he’s reasonable, he will absolutely own it and let you know what was going on, and hopefully put your mind at ease. He will also appreciate the feedback and it will help his growth in his practice.