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He likes me but I don’t like him in the same way.

There’s a boy at my school who has pretty much been in love with me for three years in a row. I’ve told him that I only want to be friends, but I feel awful for ‘friendzoning’ him. The thing is, I’m just not that interested in him. I think maybe he thinks that I like him because I’m nice to him but I don’t want to be mean to him just because he likes me and I don’t like him back. Pretty much, he’s not very popular at all. Actually, I think that I’m really his only friend. I’m not trying to be mean by saying this, but he’s different than other people. He stutters often, is not exactly powerful socially, had two double jointed elbows (he likes to flaunt this), and is very twitchy. I don’t want to say that I don’t like him, he’s a very nice person and open to making himself look like a total fool amongst others without thinking twice. He is very nice to me and does really whatever I ask him to do. I never tell him to do things like ‘oh..go buy me a cookie’ or ‘go hug that girl over there’. Instead I try to make him less of a social outcast and tell him things like ‘try not to act that way around her, it’s a little bit weird. sorry’ and ‘come on, focus on what the teacher’s saying.’. I try not to tell him not to do more of the embarrassing things because it would really make me embarrassed to do it. There’s no way nicely to say ‘try not to vomit your phlegm and then eat it off of your arm’ without admitting that you saw him do it. I just feel bad and like I’m letting him down in the worst way possible. He’s also coming to the same High School with me after this. What should I do?!

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monkichirmo offline Verified User (4 years) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (8 minutes after post)

i don’t see a reason to stop being friends with him. sounds like you’re a nice person yourself. how do you know he likes you? perhaps you’re one of the few ppl who are nice to him so he sticks around? anyway, if you told him you only want him as a friend then that’s all you can do. don’t feel bad, it happens, you’re at least being upfront about it. chances are he’ll get over it/grow out of it. if it really bothers you i guess you can put a little distance between you two, i imagine it’ll be easier when high school starts.

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Shzylo offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Undisclosed Location | 12 months ago (9 minutes after post)

I’m not sure how you can get him to stop liking you. –Kind of like Freddy liking Carly from iCarly–> and for his immaturity, girls mature more than guys, so it will take him a little more time. and try to be a mature influence on him, and if he won’t mature, tell to mature! it’s going to be a little hard to find a way to tell him nicely, maybe “Please be mature” as a simple statement.

Thats all I can think of at this moment, I will comment if I think of more ways.

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An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (14 minutes after post)
How do you know he likes you?

He knows that I know he likes me because he told me in seventh grade. Then again in 8th grade (that’s this year)After that it’s been pretty obvious. He’s always asking me for hugs and feel so guilty when I just say “no I’m sorry I have to get to my next class.” It’s worse because he’s sort of in every single one of my classes.

girls mature more than guys, so it will take him a little more time.

He really doesn’t take hints. At tall. He’s extremely immature but it’s awful because he doesn’t have any friends. That’s why I don’t want to distance him from me. I’m really his only friend. Is it bad that I’ve sort of taken him under my wing?

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12 months ago (17 minutes after post)

Sorry. ‘furryfurfu’ is me. I forgot my password…embarrassing.

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