boyfriend help: My Boyfriend has had cyber “encounters” (skype, chat) throughout the duration of our relationship about 2-3 times / month. - Help.com



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My Boyfriend has had cyber “encounters” (skype, chat) throughout the duration of our relationship about 2-3 times / month.

It has never taken away from out relationship (been prioritized). I discovered this and confronted him, and he claimed it is purely un-emotional which I believe is true. Should i consider this cheating and dump him right away? Or should I acknowledge that all men have a drive for variety and I should be grateful his weak moments were with a computer rather then in real life?

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Zirbel offline Verified User (2 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (5 minutes after post)

Either it’s an alert signal for your relationship — or it’s a trifle.
Only you and your gut feeling can know it.

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Snar offline Verified User (5 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 73 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (19 minutes after post)

Well, do you believe he will stop? Did you ask him to?

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Katody offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (25 minutes after post)

Dump him. This happened to my friend Katie numerous times and she just let him get away from it and emotionally deprive herself even when she told him to stop. Listen, if you don’t trust a man, you let him go. If you’re not his priority, let him go. Why is he looking for other girls if you’re enough for him? It’s his problem, don’t deal with this crap girlfriend. Dump him right away.

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southern_comfort offline Verified User (7 years) Long Term User Shouts: 178 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 3 minutes after post)

The deeper seed here is where is the trust you once had…. If you love and trust him above anything else this would be a non issue. Since apparently it IS an issue bring it down to the core. Don’t look for excuses to find fault but discuss (soft toned voices) what really worries you and listen to each other. Strengthen the relationship instead of looking for strings to cut it loose from its foundation.

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