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Tell your parents the truth. I was in a similar place as you when I began college and I didn’t make the right decisions. I lied to my family that I was doing okay and I even lied to them about my major. My graduation in in two days and my family still don’t know my correct major. If you are talking about academics, take classes in different subjects (most colleges require you to take them) and try to go from there to what you would like to do, what subjects you like. Try to talk to professors or academic advisers. Also keep a social life and see what other people are doing. Tell your family the truth and tell them that you need advice and that you’re not sure and that them forcing you to do something in college would be a mistake and cost them financially too if they are paying for your college. It’s quite normal to feel trapped when you have no idea what to do. I feel the same way. I’m graduating and I still don’t know what to do. Good luck with everything!

I’m not sure what it means to be happy. All of my life I have mostly been in a state of unease. Anxiety is the world I live in. I do not know my future, I have no real understanding of myself, and I do not feel like I have succeeded yet in becoming who I want to be.

But this, I understand now, is life. Everyone exists this way, some are simply ignorant of this part of their existence. None of us ever get the easy answers. No-one is happy all of the time. No-one really becomes their ideal self.

Striving. That is the difference between the man at the bottom and the man who is climbing. The desire to move, a space to move to. A goal, a hope, a dream.

Find your fight. Then you can find a way to be happy.

Realign your life, whatever your parents think about — your life is YOUR life!

“Life is what you make it. Always has been, always will be.”
(Eleanor Roosevelt, 1901 – 1962)

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“Meaning of life”:
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Just to share my own experience, which might help you.. I had nearly the same problem couple of years ago… My parents wanted me to take up a subject while I wanted to do something else… Finally I agree with their decision… And today I am very happy about it as it opened many doors for me career-wise… I realised that everything happens for a reason or another… Its true that in the short term we might not see its implication or its good side, but in the long term, once the results are here, you will realise that things happens for a good reason..

Also I believe that your parents are only looking to give the best that they can.. All they probably wish is to see you be successful in your life… So I dont think they will advise you something wrong…

Finally, on happiness… Many people say that they never get happiness… But trust it or not, happiness is not a lottery… Its simply a note in your pocket… You just have to take it out and feel its worth… Its all about how you view things… I know that words are easier said than put in practice… But I am saying all these from experience..

Take care and all the best.

I would suggest you stop going to school until you figure out what you want to do. b/c once you see your student loan debt, then you’ll really be depressed

mevin007 wrote:
Also I believe that your parents are only looking to give the best that they can.. All they probably wish is to see you be successful in your life… So I dont think they will advise you something wrong…

it doesn’t matter how nice they are or how much they hope and wish… if you aren’t doing something that *YOU* feel is meaningful and worthwhile, then you’re just cultivating negative emotions.

MarlinTheFish wrote:

it doesn’t matter how nice they are or how much they hope and wish… if you aren’t doing something that *YOU* feel is meaningful and worthwhile, then you’re just cultivating negative emotions.

Agree with you to some extent. But that’s only one side of the coin.. In every event of life, there is another side which is not so obvious to see.. People might advise us but we should take decision by ourselves. In this specific case, all I would say is to take into considerations that his/her parents are probably talking out of experience… True to say that we learn from mistakes… But its helpful to learn from other’s experience as well.. That’s just some food for thoughts for him/her as I can see he/she is already being a bit pessimistic by thinking that happiness will never comes his/her way.
Just sharing an opinion and I respect yours as well :)

I was in the exact same situation myself and still kinda am. I wont lie to you…its not an easy path but let me tell you…only one to trust in this is yourself. Because in the end when you look in the future back on your life…it wont matter that much if you had fancy degrees or high paying job. What will really matter is if you did what excited you the most.

Imagine now that you have all the money and time in the world. You wake up tomorrow in the morning you dont have to do anything…anything at all. What would you do just for fun ? What would you do just for the action itself ? Try to find what excites you most and pursue that. Maybe you need a degree maybe you dont but follow your dream no matter what.

And dont worry how that profession might be regarded in our society. Maybe it doesnt pay great or maybe its not “cool” enough in other people’s eyes. Money should be only the by-product of our work. Follow your highest excitement!

Snar wrote:
I’m not sure what it means to be happy. All of my life I have mostly been in a state of unease. Anxiety is the world I live in. I do not know my future, I have no real understanding of myself, and I do not feel like I have succeeded yet in becoming who I want to be.

But this, I understand now, is life. Everyone exists this way, some are simply ignorant of this part of their existence. None of us ever get the easy answers. No-one is happy all of the time. No-one really becomes their ideal self.

Striving. That is the difference between the man at the bottom and the man who is climbing. The desire to move, a space to move to. A goal, a hope, a dream.

Find your fight. Then you can find a way to be happy.

Couldn’t have said it better myself.