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neither nor

You got the second one wrong you said they love you more than anything but they don’t love you :3

Incidentally I’ve tried both.

One sided love affairs never last. There is no bond. Only lust and that can only sustain a relationship so long.

You lusting for someone else inflates their ego temporarily. Them lusting after you does the opposite.

I agree…..it’s too painful to go through or put someone through…but if I had to choose….id choose the second one….because if it doesnt work at least I wont hurt as much…i know thats selfish but no one wants to be in a position to get hurt….

The relationship I’m currently in feels like the second one.

@Moronic. He loves you but you don’t love him… Is that correct? For how long have you known this?

ive just been through the first one there, and its the worst thing in the world

southern_comfort wrote:
@Moronic. He loves you but you don’t love him… Is that correct? For how long have you known this?

Kinda. I’m not really sure about him. I feel like I should end the relationship, but the other side of me doesn’t want to let go.
Erm, it’s been a few weeks.

If its only been a few weeks why is “love” being mentioned in the relationship to begin with? I think he is in “love” with the external part, but I doubt he has gotten to know you on the inside yet. Am I wrong there??

southern_comfort wrote:
If its only been a few weeks why is “love” being mentioned in the relationship to begin with? I think he is in “love” with the external part, but I doubt he has gotten to know you on the inside yet. Am I wrong there??

Oh wait, I thought you meant how long have I felt this way about the relationship.

I don’t know , probably neither. Why would you want someone to love you if you didn’t love them back?

Loves a two way streak, it needs to work on both sides. If theres no love theres nothing to work on.

*street*

one of my gifts, is that i can love any girl… i somehow can bring myself to see the good parts of her and totally forget about the rest… but am talking mentally here, but when i love her mentally i forget her physical… i dont know how to explain it :D

but i think most ppl dont have that, its more like they either love them or dont… for me i can work on myself and bring myself to love a person…

i guess once u realize that nobody is perfect and if that person somehow is open minded, then i believe the sky is the limit… i can help her become a better person and she can help me become a better person as well :)

The second one makes no sense.
How can they love you more than anything and dont love you at all? LOL

Anyways I was in a relationship kinf of like #1. I loved him lots but after 5 years I figured he didnt love me back the way I thought he did. These things never end up good. Both have to have a mutual feeling for each other.