relationship help: Do I have daddy issues? - Help.com

Well, first and foremost, how old are the two of you, and what’s your relationship with your current father?

How old are you and how old is he?

I can’t say whether you have “daddy issues”, but it seems like you might have other ones. How old are you? If you are a teenager or younger then you need to stay away and find a counselor, but I suspect that this is a troll post.

In a sense it is a daddy issue then, since you never had one you’re subconscience is basically clinging to the idea of someone finally being one for you. Having a father is something everyone wants, weather they say it or not. (Same with a mother)

As for your age, since you aren’t a teenager it’s perfectly healthy, and he may not have made an actual move because he could very well view you as a child, or worse, he could be a pedo and is using you as his pedo release. (IE. he likes younger girls and you fit the bill)

All females have daddy issues. Even ones without daddies.

The fact that you never knew your dad still shaped the way you interact and view other men. Whether or not this is an issue is up to you to decide.

It boils down to this:

If you look to this man to become or replace a part of you that you feel is missing, or lacking in any way, then yes, you have a problem.

Only you can answer that.

Oh, and FYI: If you want to stay ‘anonymous’ then you should remember to reply as same.

Just in case people think I’m being unfair to women: All men have mommy issues also. It’s a part of being human.

garcialki2 wrote:
I never met my father.

Then yes, this is daddy issues.

However, that doesn’t have to be a bad thing, I think you need to approach it like any potential relationship and sort out how you both feel about each other and go from there.

garcialki2 wrote:

verge wrote:
I can’t say whether you have “daddy issues”, but it seems like you might have other ones. How old are you? If you are a teenager or younger then you need to stay away and find a counselor, but I suspect that this is a troll post.

no trolling here. why do you mean by “other issues?”

I think the fact that this man sleeps with you, but sees other women is an indication that something isn’t quite right. I’m not judging, it just doesn’t sound healthy that you love him, cuddle with him, and sleep with him, but he sees other women. That is what I meant by other issues. If he is an okay guy, he probably sees you in a nonsexual light, but that would be a problem for you, but if he does want you that way and acts like your father, that is probably an indication that he isn’t entirely swell.

It is unlikely that your friends have “normal” crushes. It only appears that way to you because you can’t experience what they do from inside their minds.

But this is about you.

How do you fix it? It’s not really something to be fixed, per se, but something to be managed. Although that isn’t really the right word, but it will do for now.

You will have bad relationships throughout your life. Each one will help you grow and become a better person and help you know yourself better. Every failed relationship will bring you closer to the person you want to be. You will recognize the signs of people you shouldn’t be attracted to and the ones you should. Each relationship will help you grow. I wish there was another way, but I’m afraid this is simply something you have to experience.

It’s like discovering what ‘hot’ was. A child can be told about ‘hot’ over and over again, but until they burn themselves they don’t truly understand what ‘hot’ is.

It’s the same way with experiences. You can be told that this relationship isn’t healthy (as Verge pointed out) but you won’t believe it. You won’t ‘know’ it.

I’m sorry, but you are going to be hurt by this man. He might not mean to, but the way things are going, and by what you describe, you are setting yourself up for disappointment at the very least.

Best case scenario? You learn something and grow from this and become more aware of yourself as a person.

Take care of yourself. I mean that sincerely.

There is nothing wrong with being attracted to older men. At 22, you are a grown-up, and if you are attracted to men in their 30s, I don’t see that as a problem.

However, if you are looking for a sexual/romantic relationship with this particular man, I don’t think you are going to get what you are looking for.

He apparently does not see you in that way as nothing has happened between you and he is dating other people.