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get my first time over with?

Yes I’m a virgin but: I want to be alone. I don’t want anyone anymore and I don’t want to wait. I’m scared and I feel if I don’t get it done and over with, I will never experience it. I have been single a little over a year. I am happy with the thought of being by myself, but I feel behind everyone else. I need your advice on a decision I will make

I was thinking of calling my ex who is also a virgin. And asking for him to have sex with me. He is currently not involved with anyone but we havent talked for awhile. I dont expect this to be pleasent, long, loving or anythign fo the sort, I’ve heard most first times arn’t. Should I do through with this if he agrees and I know he’s okay with this. Tell him clearly that I dont wnat arelationship and everything. What do you think?

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Anonymous #
11 months, 2 weeks ago (4 hours, 43 minutes after post)

yes, go ahead

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An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (3 days, 15 hours after post)

i lost my virginity because i wanted it over and done with i was so scared of being a virgin i was picked on for being a virgin by everyone that i ended up losing it to some random bloke i met on the streets on new years eve.

your first time and i know this sounds old fashioned, it should be with someone you love or if not love you trust and are somewhat attracted to, coz if its not it will scar you like it did me hun, so i would recommend if you are going to do it maybe do it with your ex who’s a virgin coz at least you know him.

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11 months, 2 weeks ago (4 days, 11 hours after post)

Please don’t. Wait until you’re with someone you love, it’s so amazing! Don’t rush it, you will regret it and it will hurt like hell!

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