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Oh man. I struggle with anger every day, yet you have a legit excuse to feel angry. That’s understandable.
But yes, it needs to be managed somehow. Find a way. Of course, a non-violent way… here’s an example, I really like to express myself through roleplaying in a chat with a friend of mine, so he lets me “beat the crud out of him” in a roleplay battle. It helps, and it’s harmless because it obviously doesn’t do any physical damage, and he’s the kind of guy who doesn’t really care what I do. :P

So do something you like, pour that angry passion into something constructive or something that makes you feel better. I’ll be prayin’ :)

- Alyssa

wow.
alright let’s see, where to begin.

if you feel like you need to punch the wall…close your eyes and do the following steps.

first step: breathe.
second step: breathe.
third step: breathe.

And when I say breathe, I means to fully inhale and exhale. Slowly and DELIBERATELY. Just consciously try to blot out all other thoughts and focus on your breathing. The feeling of the air in your stomach and lungs, diaphragm, nose, etc….

Now, about this sick and immature man-child. She needs to report it. HE’s going to go around doing teh same thing to others, quite possibly.

And you, you need to stop letting him “win”. Imagine how much of a kick he’d be getting, to know, that you are this upset. That you are hurting your own fists, by punching walls because of his actions….

wow. I say wow because I know exactly how you feel. I’ve gone through similar things myself…

Controlling violent impulses. cannot be done, unless you make a conscious effort to
control them. You must want to control your thoughts, and thus you will control your actions.

She needs to report it. And you and she need to move on. Put him behind you. His crimes do NOT have to continue to be your burden.

And you should also send him the bill, for your damaged drywall.

Do you think that kid kj will pay it?

hmm. I am sorry your cousin had to go through that, i really am.