relationship help: I just left an abusive relationship, and now I have nothing. - Help.com

You have something! You had the confidence to leave and that is seriously huge! I say that as someone who is about to celebrate their 2 year anniversary of leaving an abusive relationship with what I thought was nothing, but that confidence to leave lead to other small steps of rehabilitation and now I already have a great job that has already offered me amazing prospects as the company expands, I even bought a new car all on my own! I have slowly formed supportive friendships (though I have had to be careful to weed out those who take advantage)
Celebrating my 30th birthday in a few months as well, I’m actually taking a flight lesson on the day and Ive never even been in a plane!
It felt like I had nothing and no prospects when I left mine, but it actually gave me the opportunity to start from scratch and build a new, strong, happy life :)))

I’m so sorry! I’ll Pray for you. You’ll be okay, I promise.

I know it’s hard now. But the fact that you left that dickhead shows what kind of person you are-a strong one.

What’s importaint now is that you protect yourself. Is there a friend or family member you could stay with? Or maybe find a temporary safehouse? You need a place to stay.

Get a job if you want and start to make your own money. That will raise your confidence.

Maybe go talk to a therapist or something. That is very helpful and the therapist can help you work through it in ways you’ve never thought of.

And Pray and know it will be okay. In the end, it will all be okay. If it’s not all okay, it’s not the end.

The fact that you got out is not all that matters…but it is a remarkable start, a start many women never have the opportunity to try and I think you need to give yourself a bit of credit for that so that you can move on to the next step
To be brutally honest protection orders do not protect you. A person who is intent on harming you will likely do so regardless of what orders are placed on them, they are irrational so a rational piece of paper means very little.
Your probably not in very good shape to protect yourself right now though, counseling can realy make a difference to the strength you have to get through this, which in turn will free your mind a little to make strong choices about your personal safety. You dont need to seek a specific councilor, you could turn to a friendship that has proven to be secure in the past, someone you know who has had experience themselves or in supporting victims, your doctor can be a great place to start as well :)
No one can say for sure though how safe you are so if you realy think you need to, get out of where you are, how ever you can, find somewhere quiet he cant find you for now till he calms down (this can take a good couple of years though)
I also like to suggest education on abuse. There are normally support groups and short courses for survivors of abuse that I found greatly helped me…while my ex was still haunting and threatening me on a daily basis and the police were slow to act, these gave me the physical supports I needed to keep myself safe until orders were in place and he had come to accept it was over.
I googled a lot as well and what I learned about abusive relationships made me a lot stronger to cope, I googled terms like mental or emotional abuse, romantic abuse, financial abuse, narcissistic personality disorder (though many abusers would not be suffering from it, surprisingly it bears striking hall marks to abusive relations and understanding it helps to protect ourselves from the secret control tactics)then any other terms I learned from those searches, learning as much as I could prepared me for a very scary battle, that I won!!!

First off you have your life.secondly you Have tomorrow. And in each day you are stronger. True you have to become aware of your daily surroundings but remember that you are strong. And you know this because you got out. Also never fear him because he is a coward. Your strength is what he is afraid of. Pray because God has your back, he is living on borrowed time. These test that we go through are to prepare for what’s to come. So take heed to this lesson because you never want to repeat this one. Have faith in your ability to rise above this mess. And know that God has a better plan for you….FINALLY…….PROTECT YOURSELF BY ANY MEANS NECESSARY!!!!