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I don’t even know where to begin.

Or if there’s any real help for me in this.

I come from a place where there was never any excuse for not being completely perfect in every conceivable way.

I don’t understand forgiveness and self-love. Accomplishing everything perfectly is not time for a pat on the back. Nothing is. For me, Being a human being is the ultimate thankless job.

All the “no excuses” “just do it” “second place is the first loser” ******** has congealed in my head to make me a bitter awful person who feels almost nothing but shame and regret. Where every mistake is the end of the world and not because **I** think so, but because the world thinks so.

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Dragon_Lady offline Verified User (5 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (11 minutes after post)

Get some counseling if you can.

There is no such thing as a perfect person, so do your best to recognize that and see yourself as “good enough”.

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help.co offline Verified User (2 years, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (34 minutes after post)

There is a way out.

You already know that the rubbish you are carrying needs to be dealt with… but you should also hear that the rubbish is making you feel that there is no way out.

Find someone to talk to, someone you trust. Either a paid counsellor or an older wiser friend, perhaps someone of your parent’s generation, but someone you trust not to talk to your parents.

Then pour it all out- it will help you alot.

But the best thing is to encounter God… more on that if you ask me.

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11 months, 3 weeks ago (39 minutes after post)

Take away the I and you have a clean slate to work with, you are not your past, your mind and body evolve every day,

Not as many people are thinking about your flaws as you think, people are selfish too busy thinking about their own problems why would they have time to think about yours?
and if they are then be flatterd you’re getting so much attention or show empathy to them for not having much to think about,

If you can write it you can understand it, everyone makes mistakes, in business a person who has not yet failed does not get taken seriously.
“I haven’t failed, I’ve found 10,000 ways that don’t work”
Thomas Edison

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