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Need some relationship advice.

I’ve been dating my girlfriend for a year and a half almost. Things have been great n strong. She’s an amazing and beautiful individual and I’m very serious about her. Recently we have gotten into more arguments than usual though. Nothing severe but just bickering constantly. We both have admitted its stupid. But she also had pointed out a few times she doesn’t feel appreciated, and today she decided we should go on a little break where she can have her space and I can too. Nags said were still together and she thinks a little distance will help. Without throwing a fit I went along with it because I completely respect her and her decisions. We’re still together and are gonna talk and hang out here and there as only friends. She said were not breaking up and she cares a lot about me and this relationship and I do too. I just can’t believe I’ve slipped up like that. My question is do you think we will be okay? What can I do to make sure she feels like my girlfriend and appreciated? I really do appreciate her and I haven’t realized I don’t show it as much. She’s my best friend and all I can ask for in a girl. She’s the girl version of me. Thank u for ur responses in advance

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Anonymous #
11 months, 2 weeks ago (7 minutes after post)

You will be okay if you let yourselves be okay. Commit to her and try to understand, and ask her to do the same if you plan on working on it. It sounds like just a rough patch, and make sure your girlfriend knows how serious you are and that you aren’t just going to ditch her.

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Anonymous #
11 months, 2 weeks ago (14 minutes after post)

We’re still in this together, I just need to know what to do to make her feel like a girlfriend and appreciated again

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An Unknown Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (16 minutes after post)

Do something that shows her appreciation. I started to read The Love Dare and the starting dares that they asked you to do were just little things. Like it told me to do something nice for my husband so I just prayed to God about it and 2 seconds later I heard someone mowing the lawn so I was like that’s perfect. So I mowed the lawn for my husband so he wouldn’t have to do it. It also has a lot of easier things like don’t say anything negative to your significant other for the whole day. Do something you know she will appreciate. I think the fact that you want to change this makes you a great boyfriend and she would be proud of you if she heard your inner most thoughts. Maybe take her out to dinner. If you don’t have money then make her something. Maybe a card put some thoughtful words you come up with yourself or steal something from one of your favorite poets. There’s so much you can do to show someone you appreciate them. I suggest reading the book and applying it to your relationship.

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An Unknown Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (36 minutes after post)

The most important thing is to communicate openly and honestly about what you need. Respect what she asks for and how she feels, but make sure that she knows what you need and what you are feeling.

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11 months, 2 weeks ago (4 hours, 47 minutes after post)

having a little space to think in normal, but if you want her in your life as your gf then you need to do what shes asking, im not saying shower her with gifts and fancy restaurants but put in the time and effort you think your relationship deserves cause you dont want to lose her from how you write, tell her you love her more, be spontaneous, try to be more romantic, kiss her more and cuddle her more, have a dinner date were you cook for her, just try and show her you care. hope i could help.

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