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I go to counselling for the first time tomorrow, i could you some support please.

Its in the morning, it will be about my marriage

I worry about trust, about bareing my soul.

I will be telling her i dont want to be married to him

I have not told him that

i am terrified. I have not left the house or really done anything in days.

I dont know how to best explain it, but i am scared just so so terrified.

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Zirbel offline Verified User (2 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (4 minutes after post)

Be as much honest as you can! Don’t keep anything a secret!
The counselor is on your side, but she can help you only if you participate actively.

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cupcake7 offline Verified User (2 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (11 minutes after post)

I want to, i want to open up.

i am scraed of telling her i want a divorce and her telling him.

In many ways i know she cant, wont.

i know its needed, its what is best, but it is life changingly scary.

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Zirbel offline Verified User (2 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (14 minutes after post)

So you are going both to the counseling? Or how?
But if you want to divorce why do you see a counselor? You would better see a divorce lawyer, no?

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cupcake7 offline Verified User (2 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (25 minutes after post)

We are both going, to our own sessions.

He does not want a divorce, or even to think that its possible.

I want not to hate him, for the divoce to be as ammicable as possible. i want us to remnember respectand kindness before we do these.

I have not slept in bed, had a full nightsleep in months. I have no one to talk to about this.

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MarlinTheFish offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (26 minutes after post)

cupcake7 wrote:
I want to, i want to open up.

i am scraed of telling her i want a divorce and her telling him.

In many ways i know she cant, wont.

i know its needed, its what is best, but it is life changingly scary.

if you know what is best, then you must know that you have to make it happen. no one can make you change, except yourself. don’t blame it on the counselor if you are too afraid to do what is needed.

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cupcake7 offline Verified User (2 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (31 minutes after post)

I am not blaming anyone, not sure how that was infered.

I am just saying i am scared. I am taking a huge step and knowing its in the right direction makes it less scary, but still hard to do.

I want to work with her, finding a plan, helping both of us come out the other side of this okay. but I cant see how that will happen or look, that is what scares me.

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MarlinTheFish offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (35 minutes after post)

cupcake7 wrote:
In many ways i know she cant, wont.

sorry, I thought that was in reference to the “i want to” bit.

at any rate. it obvious you need this. don’t chicken out!

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Tictactomm offline Verified User (5 years, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Edmonton, AB, CA | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 42 minutes after post)

You will feel a huge sense of relief after today.

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