girl help: I’ll just be frank here, I want this guy… - Help.com

I suggest saying this, “I like you and want to spend time with you. Can we hang out sometime?”

I mean that being that straightforward and honest is what I recommend. The only real reason is because if you’re in a situation where you’re going off to college or he is or both, then you may not see him again if you don’t actually overcome the shyness barrier.

That’s my only idea offhand.

I’m not a girl, and I know that maybe males are supposed to naturally be more initiating like that, but life just isn’t always conducive to that. He may not have any clue that he should be closer to you, and maybe he should.

I am saying just ask him to hang out with you, yes. Do you talk to him much? Do you already spend time together? If you don’t then you have to go out of your way to talk to him and get him to spend time with you.

You should just ask people how they feel about things. But not if it takes too much courage to ask, that means you’re not really close enough and aren’t comfortable enough with each other. So make sure you spend time together enough that you can say and ask how you really feel.

Here’s an example of honest feelings at a level of non-awkwardness:
I feel like this is likely all terrible advice, that I’m too tired to be even awake, and that I probably only replied to you because I have a habit of responding to your posts. So, I’m going to invite someone else if I see them, hope that other people came to help you, and wish you luck. Good luck. :)

president mindhealer wrote:
I suggest saying this, “I like you and want to spend time with you. Can we hang out sometime?”

I mean that being that straightforward and honest is what I recommend. The only real reason is because if you’re in a situation where you’re going off to college or he is or both, then you may not see him again if you don’t actually overcome the shyness barrier.

That’s my only idea offhand.

I have the same idea ‘’Mindhealer”. being straightforward is the best suggestion!

There is nothing more appealing then someone who can exert them selfs with confidence and speak what they are truly feeling! When the opportunity arises strike up a conversation with him and if he shows an interest be completly honest and frank about how you feel and how you seem to percieve your self to others. This will open the door for you to talk to him. People like it when someone can just come out and say what they are truly feeling. You will be surprised on the response you will get. Your not alone on feeling or acting this way! Just learn to break through your shell and always maintain a confident attitude and approach. Once you do this your world will open up to so many more opportunitys then you could imagine. Never be afraid to be who you are…..to get to know someone and develope a strong good relationship you need to be able to be honest with your self and others. When you speak with your heart you are laying yourself out in the open and it can be a very scary feeling at first but once you become comfortable with this you will find it secound nature. You might be surprised that he feels the same way as well! So get out there and do it! If he is not interested after this don’t worry your self one bit there is a great guy out there for you who will admire and respect your honesty. So Go For It! And lotsa luck…..Breath and speak..

I’m glad that you’re happy. :)

Yeah. Life can be hard sometimes but you have as much right to be happy as anyone else, and since you have good ways of seeing the world and having good attitudes, you should be able to have an attitude and vision of your own life that is satisfying and fulfilling to you. At least that’s how I think about it at the moment. And so I’m glad to hear that things really can be good. It’s just great, life matters and can be good.

Thats Awesome! Now be careful who you trust in sharing with….others get jealous and will try to sabatoge your feelings. Go Girl!!!!!! Share on here where no one is close to your life to hurt you in any way! I’m so happy to read your post this morning. Keep us updated.

You need to take the dive. If you keep on pushing people away you will always be faced with that gutwrenchingly universal question “What if?”. You need to leap in it. Sure there’s the possibility that you could fall and be hurt but there’s also a chance for greatness. But from the sounds of it, this guy isn’t going to be the one to take you there. If you’re scared of getting hurt you need to try and forget about that. Be brave and let him in. But if it’s simply because he isn’t the right guy like I said before, you need to let him go.