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It means she doesn’t know.

It means she HAD feelings for you, but now she’s not sure you’re the same person or if she just loves the memories.

She doesn’t know if her feelings (whatever they are) now will change as she gets to know you again.

She doesn’t know if she is really the same person. Have her values and goals changed? Does she see you as looking backward instead of forward?

She doesn’t know. So don’t push too hard, and she will let you know when she’s ready.

Dragon_Lady wrote:
It means she doesn’t know.

It means she HAD feelings for you, but now she’s not sure you’re the same person or if she just loves the memories.

She doesn’t know if her feelings (whatever they are) now will change as she gets to know you again.

She doesn’t know if she is really the same person. Have her values and goals changed? Does she see you as looking backward instead of forward?

She doesn’t know. So don’t push too hard, and she will let you know when she’s ready.

Brilliant response! Highly perceptive! (or are you just having a good day? Have you thought of doing this professionally Dragon Lady?)

lol

I had a pretty good day, yes. Yes; I once planned a career in psychology, but was forced to drop out of college for personal reasons and just never was able to go back.

No problem; my life has taken different turns. :D

A first love effects you for the rest of your life. She has feelings for you, but not necessarilly good. But that also means not necessarilly bad. She might feel awkward answering that because she’s iffy about how it ended and how you guys felt before, or she might be into you still, but since you guys just started talking again unsure if things are better. Or she might plane out hate you and is tollerating you. I personally believe she feels something, but she wants to see if things have changed.

Dragon_Lady wrote:
lol

I had a pretty good day, yes. Yes; I once planned a career in psychology, but was forced to drop out of college for personal reasons and just never was able to go back.

No problem; my life has taken different turns. :D

Seriously Dragon, look into online courses and get the qualification slowly and cheaply if you can. You are really good. I hope the Op knows what’s what now and stops bugging her.

Chrona wrote:
A first love effects you for the rest of your life. She has feelings for you, but not necessarilly good. But that also means not necessarilly bad. She might feel awkward answering that because she’s iffy about how it ended and how you guys felt before, or she might be into you still, but since you guys just started talking again unsure if things are better. Or she might plane out hate you and is tollerating you. I personally believe she feels something, but she wants to see if things have changed.

well…a lot has changed….we both learned from our mistakes….the real reason to why we broke up was because her parents never accepted me 4 years ago….but now things has changed….i have recently been told that her parents have no problem with it now….so upon talking to her recently and asking her if she still has feelings for me, she told me that she is scared and that she doesnt wanna talk about it…..she told me that she doesnt want to give herself false hope like before and if it doesnt work out, she will fall back into a hole again….she also told me that all she wants me to know is that if our parents comes to us tomorrow and doesnt mind us being together, then she honestly doesnt have a problem with it…..does that mean she has good feelings for me?

Yes; but take it slow, and be **** sure you mean them before you make her promises.

Agreed, she’s into you BIG time! I hope this time it works out and there are no obstacles. Good journey by friend.

thank you guys for your help….you guys are right….

however i have one more thing to add….after our break up, its nothing like i screwed up or whatever….we were young and we both made mistakes…..so upon talking to her recently and after telling me that she would mind us together if our parents are ok with it tomorrow, she is playing hard to get….she basically said stuff like in general, the girl she is today, once she moved on from something, she doesnt look back…..she also told me that time and destiny will tell and we shall see…..

so what should i do next?….should i keep chasing her to give her satisfaction and make her feel wanted or should i reverse it and make myself harder to get??..

for me its like this….if i keep chasing her for a while, and in the end it doesnt work out and she says no to me, my mental and physical health will be at risk….because when her parents rejected me years ago, i chased after her and i gave everything i had but it didnt work out and i was hurt really bad….something i dont want to go through again

thank you

How about just be yourself?

OMG…that makes sense…i cant believe how i didnt think of that lol…

thank you so much

Dragon_Lady wrote:
How about just be yourself?

You ARE Good!

Dear Op, what will be, will be. Get rid of the anxiety and the need to know and just let it ride. I agree with Dragon Lady and believe it’s okay to be who you are. Good luck.