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im too nice to people sometimes, and then i hate myself for it afterwards :/ …

its like im scared of being too nice to someone… i feel like they’re going to **** me over one day

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kaylieghalbritto offline Verified User (11 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 37 minutes after post)

What exactly is it that makes you scared of being too nice to someone? Is it something in peticular? You can be nice without being a pushover. Just know when to say no. Set boundries. Know where the line is. And be confident because you don’t owe anybody anything.

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An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 46 minutes after post)

there is always the risk people will abuse the good you do to them, but that doesn’t prevent the good one from doing good. some people will not treat you right even when you do good to them, others will do good to you even when you treat them wrongly. i think all you need do is choose your friends well, bearing in mind that even the bests of friends can cause the worst of harms. get over it.

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An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 50 minutes after post)

You should always try to be nice to people, but that doesn’t mean you should suppress your true feelings. Trust your gut and be yourself around people. You’ll realize that it’s better to be yourself rather than try to please everyone all the time. You’re true friends will love you for who you are, and the rest…well, they’re not your true friends.

I’m still learning myself. I try and be nice to everyone as well. I find there’s always a reason why people act the way they do. I try and look for that in them, and try and look for their good qualities.

However, I know who to trust and who not to trust. I will be nice to the people I know I can’t trust, but only when I need to. Otherwise I just don’t bother with them.

Don’t ever let someone walk all over you, you deserve to be treated with just as much respect as the next person!

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An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (4 hours, 23 minutes after post)

Dont be too nice out of fear. Try to relax and be yourself.

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