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Today I went to my boyfriends house to help him clean up for his mom because she is gone on a trip.

Later when I got home he called me while I was cooking for my little sister and couldn’t get to the phone on time and he yelled at me and told me I was mean should I dump him and just move on or give him a second chance

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ENAMTHBert offline Verified User (3 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (5 minutes after post)

why he told you that and does he always yelling at you?

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Sparrowhawk offline Verified User (5 years, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (1 hour, 26 minutes after post)

If his behaviour upset you, speak with him about it. If he often acts with anger towards you, it may be worthwhile to consider ending the relationship or trying to speak with him about changing his behaviour.

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ENAMTHBert offline Verified User (3 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (1 hour, 47 minutes after post)

well she doesn’t why he get anger
Or does he usually get angry for no reason and suddenly get angry ?
IF so then the better is to end relationship .

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ENAMTHBert offline Verified User (3 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (2 hours, 4 minutes after post)

-Sparrowhawk- wrote:
If his behaviour upset you, speak with him about it. If he often acts with anger towards you, it may be worthwhile to consider ending the relationship or trying to speak with him about changing his behaviour.

I think trying to speak with him about changing his behavior is not good way and not respectful way .
otherwise he would treat her with respect if he wanted .

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Sparrowhawk offline Verified User (5 years, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (17 hours, 43 minutes after post)

Piggy wrote:
otherwise he would treat her with respect if he wanted .

This is not necessarily the case. Some people act angry out of habit. They may in fact want to be kind, but it’s like they’re automatically programmed to treat others with anger. So treating other people with respect (even though they may want to) is very difficult. I’m not saying that this is the case with the OP’s boyfriend, just pointing out that it is a possibility if he is often angry.

Sometimes it helps to talk with people about their behaviour.

He may not treat her badly on purpose. He may act with anger towards others. In my view, by speaking about her feelings the OP could encourage him to change and thus prevent him from treating other people in a similar way. Sometimes people need to be made aware of inappropriate or hurtful behaviour. The OP has a right to express her feelings. And if he doesn’t want to change his behaviour to keep the relationship alive and growing, then ending things with him would probably be best. Just my two cents’ worth.

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