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I’m jealous of my older brother.

He is an amazing singer and he plays guitar and piano by ear. I sing too and I also play guitar and piano, but my family always wants him to sing and they never include me. They’ll include my cousin who’s a year younger than me, so I know it’s not like because I’m younger, I’m being ignored. She has a beautiful voice as well, but it pisses me off because it feels like she’s trying to take my place. Me and my brother were in choir together for a year and my family always came to see him and then when he graduated, for my last two years of high school, nobody came to my shows like they did for him. And what’s worse is that my cousin not only joined choir after I did, everyone went to her shows in the same freakin year. I’m also mad that because of her talent whenever she’s at my house, her and my brother exclude me and sing together and play guitar together. And whenever they talk about music they leave me out and act as if I don’t know what they know. And my cousin used to be my best friend and now all she does is hang out with my brother. She doesn’t talk to me on the phone as much as she used to and basically texts and talks to my brother all the time and people often ask if they’re siblings and make it seem like I’m just a friend of theirs. I am jealous of both of them. I am close to both of them, but whenever they get together, I’m left out. I am trying my best not to hate either of them, but i feel like when it comes down to it, I’m going to stop talking to them both and the sad part is that they probably won’t even notice.

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weird0n offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (1 hour, 49 minutes after post)

Dont be envious of what he has, concentrate on you, because if youre trying to do anything to one up someone or because you want to be noticed… just be. and Voice that you feel left out, maybe ask if he [your brother] will show you some things, to sort of break the ice? maybe hes insecure and is worried youll outshine him?

Work on your art, and let them be, thinking the worst brings the worst upon you

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An Unknown Location | 7 months, 2 weeks ago (4 months after post)

Don’t be jealous. You should be happy for your older brother because he is being admired. Although you aren’t, you should still not jealous because you also have talents. You can show it off not only to your family, but also to your friends. I’m sure they would admire you a lot. I’m already jealous at you because you can play guitar and piano. Those are the two instruments I really love to learn. And plus, you can sing, too! You’re making me jealous :) So, don’t be jealous because of your bro. Just focus on yourself. And practice more. Who knows? You might get better than your older brother without even knowing. And, I’m sure you have supporters :) Go on! Fighting! Heeya!

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