life help: why do i have these thoughts? - Help.com

The less you indulge and entertain those thoughts, the quicker it is to move on. They’d like you to think they have some value in the scheme of things, in the drama of your life, but really they’re against you. It’s natural, but you just notice them, let go, think about more important things.

What seems to be actually of value to you in this situation is not the feelings of worthless suicidalness, but your wanting to be a valuable person and to date someone great. So you might want to go back to those particular ambitions, but not while you have them emotionally connected to anything like self-pity or especially suicidal self-disrespect. Just focus on something good and then work on relationship stuff later. I saw a great forum about relationships, called loveshack.org, maybe you’d like it.

bro, i feel the same way sometimes; some girls are just so HOLY $#!T that u want to kill yourself.

I honestly, right now, am working to impressing girls–so this is what I do:

sign up for YMCA, or GYM; start working out a lot.
save up for clothes, better gear.
save up for a car, and ur own place.

I’m also on dating website like www.OkCUPID.com just checking girls profiles. I never get a response, sometimes I do, but this gives you insights to what girls look for.

Also I’m 5′4, so I really have a hard time; so, I mean, you know, I’m not going to give up just because of it. Time to be a soldier and focus on the money m8,

Well, I’m a computer nerd, gamer and ****, I’m giving that up cause it’s just not really something some hot chicks dig. It’s time for some muscle, better clothing; and a lot of changes ya know.

the_manning_er wrote:
am i wasting my time here or what?

Could be. What exactly do you want to hear? We could echo it back to you. Perhaps an affirmation of how worthless you are would help?

the_manning_er wrote:
If i have to be alone, I don’t want to live. Simple as that.

Who says you have to be alone? And why is it soooo important that you be with someone who is incredibly physically attractive? Is that what matters the most to you??? You say getting in better shape will only attract shallow women. Isn’t that what you are showing yourself to be, here?

Looks are NOT what a fulfilling, happy and loving relationship is all about…

Forget about wearing fancy clothes or trying to change your body into pure muscle. Any girl worth having in this world will appreciate you for the person you are without going to desperate measures to impress and attract them.

Secondly, it probably wouldn’t hurt to be more confident in yourself. You’d be amazed how charming a guy can be to a girl when he shows a little confidence.

Most importantly, you need to refrain from believing that your self-worth depends on others. Before you can ever love someone else you must first love yourself.

the_manning_er wrote:
see that is my biggest problem, money, why do i need to impress them with money? wearing expensive clothes only attracts gold diggers, getting in better shape attracts shallow women. now why do i want to bother? if i have to be alone i dont want to live, simple as that.

These are very harmful thoughts. I used to think sort of like that, that if someone isn’t willing to look beyond certain shortcomings, then they aren’t worth anything and there is no point in changing to snag one of these suckers, but the truth is you should focus on being the best version of yourself - for yourself, not to please anyone else. Good things will follow. the Golden People, the keepers, aren’t attracted to the things you said above, but to people who have the qualities that get them these things. Sought after people are capable and confident, two very achievable things that require work. Loving yourself is very important, and being able to take pride in your achievements is a good first step. Smarten up man, you can. It will make you happier.

the_manning_er wrote:

president mindhealer wrote:

the_manning_er wrote:
am i wasting my time here or what?

Could be. What exactly do you want to hear? We could echo it back to you. Perhaps an affirmation of how worthless you are would help?

yea continue to verbally trash me and put me down, it has gone on for 39 years, why not more.

Don’t take this the wrong way, Mindhealer was just demonstrating to you how destructive your thoughts are. We want to help, but if you don’t even try to listen then we might as well tell you what you want to hear. We like to observe a hint that our advice sinks in a teeny bit. Don’t get angry.

Sounds like you need a life style change. You have got to be more positive, there really is a lot to be thankful for/happy about. What do you like in life?

Sunshine and the smell of flowers and the taste of fresh air do nothing for you? Perhaps you need to reacquaint yourself. What about the feeling you get after working far to long when you can FINALLY fall into bed and pass out? What about the nice soreness of muscles after exerting yourself physically? What about your favorite music or movies? The voices of your loved ones? If you don’t then you need to refamiliarize yourself because these are the things that everyone takes pleasure in. Do you work?

Go out more. Sunlight helps relieve depression. Read a book in a park.
Get a job, the busyness will improve your life and give you some meaning and purpose.
You don’t ever need a membership to anything to get exercise. Just take a walk and do some crunches and pushups daily.
Get drunk less. Only when you are already happy is a good tip. Alcohol has a lot of calories and really effs with your brain.
People would love you if you were nice to them, so start.
Get a job, rake an old lady’s lawn for free, just do something.

BE WHO YOU ARE. Yeah you may not get that 1, but look at how many there are. You may find 1 you may not. If you try to be someone your not than have YOU really gotten anything worth keeping

For the most part you are right. People are judgmental, most could really careless if either 1 of us lives or dies. Looking at 50 by the way. Sounds like we took the same path. Only satan doesn’t have me by the throat, nor will he let me die, for hell would be easier than this life. The only thing I can say is instead of assuming she is going to say no and feeling like ****. Walk up like you own the store and ask her out. Be specific time, place simple easy coffee or a drink. That way its yes or no, clean. If no are you any worse than feeling like crap any way. The more times you ask the more confidant you will be in at least asking, even if no. At 50 I have 2 drop dead gorgeous women as friends both are 27. Its awesome to watch as I walk into the room with them. Even though we are just friends no one else knows. The men are jelious and the women wonder.

I hope those who have made you feel like a worthless human being are no longer involved in your life. That is the first step towards loving oneself - getting rid of all the negative people in your life (and I don’t mean that in the literal sense). After you remove the negative people, you should then focus on surrounding yourself with positive people - people who compliment you and make you feel good to be alive. In order to accomplish this you have to break this monotonous routine of confining yourself to your home. This is causing you to miss out on so many wonderful experiences and meeting wonderful people. Once you realize that their are, in fact, people in the world who will care about you and make you feel like your existence in the world is meaningful, then I am positive you will love yourself and see that life is indeed worth fighting for.

I don’t get this attitude.

At 50 I have 2 drop dead gorgeous women as friends both are 27. Its awesome to watch as I walk into the room with them. Even though we are just friends no one else knows. The men are jealous and the women wonder.

Is making other people jealous or leaving them wondering about your apparent “success” with women what you need to make you happy? Why do you base your own personal value on who you are seen with or who you are dating?

We all need to learn to love ourselves first, find pride in who we are, discover our own worth, regardless of what goes on around us. At that point, it doesn’t make any difference anymore what we “look like” in the eyes of others. We know who we are and other people’s opinions about us goes right over our head!

Furthermore, no one will ever be able to find someone who will truly love them and enjoy their company until they love themselves first and know what their own worth is. We all have something to offer the world. We are all valuable. Maybe some of us have not have been brought up to believe so, in our youth. Not everyone is lucky enough to receive the love they need growing up. But it’s never too late to start being your own best friend and giving yourself everything you wish you’d received from your parents.

Hating those who are happy will get you nowhere. When you hate, your hurt yourself more than anything else.

It’s everyone’s responsibility to do what they need to do in order to improve their own lives. Be responsible for your own happiness. No one owes you anything. It’s your job to make yourself happy…

“Your life” is not yet over! And you have all the power you need, in your own mind to change it around! Forget the past. Become responsible for what you make of your future. Anything can be turn around. Things can change for the better. It all just depends on what you decide to make of it. If all you do is convince yourself that everything is ugly and awful… your mind being as strong and creative as it is, that’s just the way it’s going to be! From here on, it’s your choice, really… no one else is responsible for what you make of your life.

What exactly do you want from us?

You came to a website called “help.com”, typed a post with a question in its title, and then you just started spewing your rejection of all humanity all over the thread.

Help has been offered, and you haven’t actually yet failed to shoot any one of them down with another volley of how crappy you think you are, how crappy you think the world is, and how crappy everything is.

So let me ask you the original question a different way: do you want us to help by advising, or do you want us to help by listening?

Oh.. and by the way, 39 is not that old! (lol)
Seriously, you need to change your focus! Have you never had a dream that you wanted to attain, something you wanted to accomplish? Let the idiots be. So what? You don’t need to talk to them either. Who cares about them! Love yourself first. Do things to make yourself feel good about who you are. NO ONE ELSE MATTERS. Anyway, you can’t give what you haven’t receive. So first, take care of YOU. If you start doing that, it will put you on a much better track and you will start meeting different people, some who will actually care about you and who can genuinely relate to you.

And get out of that dark apartment. You need some fresh air and sunlight. It gets very depressing to stay in a dark enclosed place for too long!

I am very sorry for what has happened to you. That is something really hard to deal with. You need to talk to someone who will really listen.

Weather you want to believe it or not, there are people who care. When you are in need, there is nothing wrong at all with reaching out to them. They care and that’s what they’re there for. You should try some of these links… whenever you feel like it, of course.

http://www.crisischat.org/
http://hopeline.com/gethelpnow.html
http://www.newhopenow.org/counseling/…

Well I will give no more advice. As I know and understand. I will be right there in the same condition. I do have some good days. Most of the time the people that try to tell me how to be happy have no clue what or why you feel the way you do. They just say feel happy and you will be happy.

And all those people that read it. I don’t hide in the dark, for the most part. I own a business. I interact all the time with people. I don’t advertise all of my jobs I get by word of mouth and the quality of my workmanship. Most of my customers Treat me as if I am a family member, and yet I still feel alone and feel the same way he does.

Like I said, everyone has value and something to offer other, Mowen. We all have bad days and bad years… sometimes decades. Your advice is as valuable as any other advice. People understand things differently. I give advice but most times, I feel like I’m speaking some foreign language that very few understand. So what! I help some and am of no use to others. That won’t stop me from being me the best way I know how. You can’t please everyone and that’s just fine the way it is! I personally don’t really care what others think. I have learned that loving myself is what is most important, that I am my first priority. We all feel alone at some point or another in our lives. So what! You have to try and focus on what is good for YOU.

When you start focusing on what feels good, in every possible detail of your day and make sure you get what you need in order to improve your own situation, then there is hope and your outlook gradually changes to a happier one, one little step at a time. If you make up your mind to focus mostly on all the bad things that have happened to you and all the mean spirited people around you, you will always just get to see more of it. And that’s NOT what you want. There is hope. But it’s up to every individual to choose to believe in it or not! The result in their lives will correspond to their own beliefs and expectations. Meh… sorry to say but we do create our own reality. Don’t allow other people’s view to shape yours. Don’t give away your power to them…

You can transform your life into something quite different… if you make up your mind to do it. And so what if you are alone at first. It’s better to be alone than to be in bad company. I personally appreciate my alone time… a whole lot. :)

LoL It’s fine. Hehe… venting is just fine.
All I was saying is that I know for a fact, that not having enough daylight will cause depression in some people. And some exercise will help you feel better and help change your outlook too, even if it’s just making a habit of going for a walk at night, when there’s hardly anyone around.

I think you just need some change, big or small, some change might be good for you…

the_manning_er wrote:
Why do I have these thoughts?

I was at the grocery store earlier tonight. I noticed this really attractive woman and I started to think about taking my life. Why? because I know I will never have her or anyone like her. I swear god hates me and wants me to date some ugly fucken slob until I am dead. The more these thoughts keep creeping in, the more I want to start planning my demise.

You say it yourself: “The more these thoughts keep creeping in, the more you want to start planning your demise.”

Do you see how you are creating your own reality by the thoughts you choose to entertain. The power is in your own mind. Think differently. Start dreaming again. You can change those bad habits of thinking. I known any habit is hard to change but you can do it… and see where that will lead you. You could be planning something quite different for yourself. It’s just a matter of “will”, really…

Your future does NOT have to be a reflection or your past. Just let it go. Holding on to anger is mostly detrimental to YOU. Life goes on and you can turn it around if you want to.

Please, take care of you.

Who the **** are you to call someone a ****** ugly slob!
That is your problem keep your spirits high&your expectations low!
Pisses me of when men like you only give a **** about external beauty! Whats wrong with beauty being skin deep?
Stop lookin for perfection.
See the bigger picture for **** sake.

the_manning_er wrote:

windmills, wrote:
I hope those who have made you feel like a worthless human being are no longer involved in your life. That is the first step towards loving oneself - getting rid of all the negative people in your life (and I don’t mean that in the literal sense). After you remove the negative people, you should then focus on surrounding yourself with positive people - people who compliment you and make you feel good to be alive. In order to accomplish this you have to break this monotonous routine of confining yourself to your home. This is causing you to miss out on so many wonderful experiences and meeting wonderful people. Once you realize that their are, in fact, people in the world who will care about you and make you feel like your existence in the world is meaningful, then I am positive you will love yourself and see that life is indeed worth fighting for.

that does sound like great advice and a very reinforced, positive message. when i read things like this my mind tells me that people are usually full of it. to me they are only words and they really dont say anything.this is how i feel, i am not attacking you by no means at all. i just have given up on society, women, men, everything. when i go out in public and people try to make small talk i just ignore them or give them a dirty look. i have been burned too long, too many years, f***** them all i say. yup that is a pathetic negative attitude, but live my life and maybe you would not care about anything anymore. funny thing is, this is just the tip of the iceberg. i have even more dark secrets in my closet that i have not even revealed to this website.

You’re right. Those are only words. All of this advice you’re receiving will remain only words if you never decide to act on our advice.
I cannot physically help you do these things. You have to make the effort to change your life and your cynical outlook on it. It has been duly noted that you have been treated like crap for 39 years. I’m sorry you had to be subjected to such a miserable 39 years. But this does not mean the rest of your life has to suffer because of it. By persisting in believing your life will never improve and that it is doomed to suffer for as long as you’re breathing, then your life will be just that because you will basically be committing a self-fulfilling prophecy.

I know exactly how you’re feeling….i had a boyfriend for 4 years and was even engaged…he left me and now im having thoughts of suicide too….relationships arent what they’re cracked up to be….but they are nice….have you tried a dating site? Maybe you can find you’re love…our maybe a change of scenery….it may be that you already know enough people where you are that you dont want to waste your time…new people can offer new opportunity….im really sorry if this isnt helpful….just wanted to feel useful to someone….

It is not fair really for me to post here, being very, very, very handsome. But despite my gorgeous good looks I to have struggled with dating, I have tried to kill myself twice (what a looser!!!) and yet I have come through all that and have now gotten married and have a daughter on the way :)

The thing that helped me most with dating was feeling like I had something to offer (not saying this is good or bad, just the thing that helped me most) my strength in particular.

I was crushed and broken by my childhood, hit the self destruct button and always felt like a fraud when dating, not because I was decieving anyone but because I knew that I did not have what it takes (what ever it was)

I would suggest sorting your issues out first, drugs, alcohol, anger, etc… either at an aa meeting an na meeting a church or a shrink. You will feel so much better about your prospects. Getting that lovely girl right now (like this minuite, if she were to burst through the door wrap her legs around you…. you get the picture) would (I think) leave you feeling worse in a few weeks because you will then have something to loose…. might sound weird but now I am where I am, for the first time in my life I really have something to loose. All the pain I went to getting stable before going into a relationship has paid off.

It is tough when you have tried everything you can think of and it has gotten you nowhere, what else is left. I thought killing myself but the answer is in asking for help. You are not alone.

As for God hating you that is not his job, it is the devil that is not around your throat he is in your head, making subtle accusations based on the smallest amount of truth. Look for the source of the accusations and you will find it is based on false evidence. You are of intrinsic value if you choose to believe it.

Sorry I couldn’t help; I didn’t know I was talking to a 39 years old or older.

I am in the military and there are tons of people I know here that has no relationships at all with women.

Honestly, I really don’t know why it’s so difficult to get into a relationship.

I’m having a hard time as well, and even though I’m in my 20s, my short height just doesn’t attract girls. It’s quite pathetic.

Also, my beliefs is about not getting married, never having children…and really don’t support the idea of procreation and increasing population.

A lot of guys have your thoughts m8, when that good looking female enter the room, their siren magic just overwhelms us and it’s depressing.

The thought of women is just so depressing.

I really didn’t feel like reading all the responses so I’m just going to reply and hope I didn’t steal anyone’s words.
First off- if you want to kill yourself then why do you think a women would be interested in you? I mean do you know that what you think shows on the outside? I’m a very perceptive person and I see what people hold deep within themselves. You know I wouldn’t be attracted to someone who has bad thoughts because usually their bad thoughts are spoken of and it makes them unattractive.

As for you saying am I always going to be dating some ugly, slob? Well yes if that’s who you choose. I mean really you are choosing your own lifestyle by your thoughts and actions. Personally I think you need to see a woman’s beauty that’s skin deep rather than her outer appearance. If you were a bombshell yourself then you wouldn’t find a problem finding the woman you want. So you have flaws, but what makes you so undesirable is the way you talk. I think you are loosing women because you are hypocritical. Like it’s okay for me to be an ugly, slob, but oh no not my women. Anyhow maybe I’m focusing to much on that one sentence, but you need to fix your personality before you expect women to want to be with you. So it’s fixable, but you have to want to fix it.

the_manning_er wrote:

president mindhealer wrote:

the_manning_er wrote:
am i wasting my time here or what?

Could be. What exactly do you want to hear? We could echo it back to you. Perhaps an affirmation of how worthless you are would help?

yea continue to verbally trash me and put me down, it has gone on for 39 years, why not more.

poor you

maybe you enjoy it

it saves you from taking any responsibility for your own thought and attitude, which as expressed here truly SUCK

Plus, alcohol is a TOTAL dead end. But go ahead, wallow in it if that’s what you want.

Leave the op alone….you don’t know what he’s been going threw…he came on here for the same reason we’re all here…shame on you all who find it alright to fed to his pain….how would you like to find out he did kill himself?would that satisfy all you who are attacking him? He’s feeling down and hopeless…we’ve all been there….so he wants to complain…let him! He has just as much reason to do it as everyone else on here…i don’t see you attacking all the other people on here! You don’t have anything prossitive or helpful to say then just don’t reply…I’m sorry if this comes of as rude…i just don’t appreciate the attacks

MidLifeCrisisLOLZ wrote:
Also I’m 5′4, so I really have a hard time; so, I mean, you know, I’m not going to give up just because of it. Time to be a soldier and focus on the money m8,

idk why you have a hard time with girls you’re lovely looking :) and the fact that you’re a “computer nerd” can be an attractive quality to some girls coz at least you’re not a player, my bf is far from perfect looking he’s never had much luck with girls he’s not ugly or anything he’s average looking a bit like ricky gervais from some angles lol he’s just painfully shy prob the most shy bloke i know it’s really strange coz i’ve known blokes who look like Gollum who think they’re like Brad Pitt I guess it’s all about how you see yourself. what kind of girls do you go after hun?

the_manning_er wrote:
am i wasting my time here or what? who’s **** do i need to kiss to get a real response instead of all these false prophets and the nonsense they think is a positive message

LOL there’s nothing more frustrating than ppl not understanding the frustrating situation you’re in, but at least ppl are trying to help and give you advice and you’re not on your own.

as a girl who’s befriended and known a lot of pretty popular girls i will tell you this some are not worth it, most of them want to date absoloute pricks knowing full well they’re gonna get their hearts broken or that they’ll get bored or cheat but it’s all so they can sat they’re in a relationship, the other half are so ****** up and unhappy with the heartbreak they’ve suffered they don’t know what to do anymore. there are nice girls out there trust me i’m a nice girl like i said my bf is no looker and before me he’d never had a gf do i care? no does it put me off? no am i bothered by what my friends think? no because he’s an absoloute sweetheart like most boys who are shy and not had much luck with girls.

I’ve read your last few posts and you seem really focussed on getting a girlfriend, but are angry that you aren’t meeting anyone.

You’ve said you think it’s your appearance, but you also say you get called handsome, so I’m not sure why you think it’s your appearance.

I think it’s probably your attitude. I presume you don’t vent all this anger, bitterness and negativity at people when you actually meet them in the same way as you have done here, but I would be surprised if it’s not coming across!

It’s a vicious circle - you are alone, so get angry and bitter, then get surprised when women aren’t queing up to spend time with someone angry and bitter!

On a practical level, it doesn’t matter how old you are or what you look like when it comes to relationships. I am 42 and single, having just split up from a guy I met online. I do not feel my life is over! I would say I’m pretty attractive, but I don’t just look for attractive men, it depends on who you click with.

There are plenty of people of all ages out there looking for a relationships. There is nothing stopping you meeting someone apart from yourself.

There is plenty of good advice above about how to adopt a more positive outlook and attitude - it’s entirely up to you whether you want to take it. I would take it, as the alternative is things go on as they are, which clearly isn’t making you happy.

You need to have a little hope and faith. I have always had that and never had a problem being alone. People want to be around people who are positive. You also aren’t helping by pushing people away. You said you push people away and I believe you because you are trying to do it here where people want to help you. Sometime hearing the truth is what we need to move past what we think and believe and strive for what is true. You need to really get to thinking positively or else you are going to keep feeding this part of you that just wants to be away from everyone. 39 is usually the best time to find a partner, but since you have been out of the game for a little while you really need to brush up on how to have a good relationships. You also need to make sure you are in fact ready. Being able to make yourself happy would be a good start. Get some hobbies. Start interacting with people. Maybe you will find someone who will be into setting you up with one of their friends. Remember God doesn’t hate you, when I was going through my hardest time in life I see God was just keeping me safe, and occupied until I found the One. Also he was teaching me what I needed to know for the road ahead. I honestly believe if I met my husband one year earlier we would not have the relationship we have today, we probably wouldn’t even be together. Remember God knows you better than you know yourself, but you have to continue to strive for Gods will and be a person who wants to know God because otherwise he will not be able to reveal himself to you. He not only made me ready for my husband, but he made me a better friend, sister, and daughter. I know God loves you. Start doing what you need to do to get out of this funk. We want to see you succeed. I would get rid of the bad habits I had because a sober mind will be able to recognize what’s really going on in your life. If you stay drunk you will continue to be confused and unhappy. Remember insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. Begin to change the things that are weighing you down.

So you start getting negative thoughts, while seeing pretty girls? Well you Will end up with someone, and it will probably be someone your attractive to. Try to change your outlook on this topic. Instead of why can’t I end up with this gorgeous girl, think of reasons why she can’t end up with you? (Think of good reasons, not bad ones)

God doesn’t hate you.

Anonymous wrote:
Leave the op alone….you don’t know what he’s been going threw…he came on here for the same reason we’re all here…shame on you all who find it alright to fed to his pain….how would you like to find out he did kill himself?would that satisfy all you who are attacking him? He’s feeling down and hopeless…we’ve all been there….so he wants to complain…let him! He has just as much reason to do it as everyone else on here…i don’t see you attacking all the other people on here! You don’t have anything prossitive or helpful to say then just don’t reply…I’m sorry if this comes of as rude…i just don’t appreciate the attacks

You’re right, I was reacting to his bitter self-pity, and I shouldn’t have. Sorry, the_manning_er

I hope you get better. My husband is 38 and I’m 27. I love him the way he is. Just by the way you talk you seem a little like him. The only difference I see between you two is that if he notices something isn’t getting him laid or his life just feels meaningless, you know what he does? Something different. He will stop drinking for months or he will start to work-out and work his butt off. I think you need motivation. Funny thing is I met him in a bar, he got lucky because I had vowed to stay away from bars, but for some reason I was there to help another person out and I just so happened to meet him while waiting on another person. You really need to go to a place where you can meet a lovely women. Maybe go to the movies, or the park. Start to get out. Get a tan. Look like you are living life to the fullest. I think I was attracted to my husband because he didn’t see interested in me, but we did have nice conversation. It made him mysterious in a way. He also knows how to cook. So learn some good dishes and invite a women you are interested in over and cook a great dish you know. Women love to be catered to. Be sure to shower more than once a day, women who don’t smoke or drink can smell it from a mile away and it’s a turn off. Unless you want slob girl who doesn’t mind because she smokes 2 packs a day and doesn’t care to take a bath before she goes to sleep, I’m just saying. You will get a better choice of women if you have a better lifestyle. Even if you smoke just brush your teeth a lot. Wear a good cologne, make sure you look the part of someone who wants to be in a relationship and not a person who just wants to be alone. Women like to be impressed. Create something that other men ain’t got, like a boat or a good ole’ country girl like me would be down for fishing off a bridge. Show a girl something she doesn’t get to experience with most men. She will be more intrigued in you and want to be in your life and see what else you have planned.

Anonymous wrote:
Leave the op alone….you don’t know what he’s been going threw…he came on here for the same reason we’re all here…shame on you all who find it alright to fed to his pain….how would you like to find out he did kill himself?would that satisfy all you who are attacking him? He’s feeling down and hopeless…we’ve all been there….so he wants to complain…let him! He has just as much reason to do it as everyone else on here…i don’t see you attacking all the other people on here! You don’t have anything prossitive or helpful to say then just don’t reply…I’m sorry if this comes of as rude…i just don’t appreciate the attacks

Your right,I should of read his other posts to get a better understanding.

control over thought is impossible, u can only judge to how much importance to give them, if u give important to a thought it will hower u, if u ignore it, it will have no effect on u.

You are one of the most negative and petulant people who’s ever written in for help! Do you really wamt help, or are you just here to whine and display yourself?!

Cool! Good for you! Nice Shawshank quote.

That’s good to hear. I’m glad you’ve summoned up the courage to resolve to fight off your depression and begin to live a more fulfilling life.

I wish you luck….wish I could do that…

In my top ten :)

the_manning_er wrote:

Rosabella wrote:
You are one of the most negative and petulant people who’s ever written in for help! Do you really wamt help, or are you just here to whine and display yourself?!

since you want to verbally trash me OVER and OVER, i will just sit here and whine until you cant stand it anymore.

now on a more serious note, i am done dealing with this depression, i actually had my first productive day in months. it felt really good to get out and see the sun, tomorrow i will be putting together my $300 worth of exercise equipment. i am DONE feeling like crap everyday and its time to get busy living or get busy dying.

Glad you had a productive day. :)

Me too!

I am glad that you have found something as well. life is short and you never know when it will end.