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Confusing Scorpio girl

This girl I am pursuing right now seems very hard to read. Or maybe, I am stupid. Either way, here is how it is:

I met her at a convention. Just a passing encounter and a minute-long conversation. Then she found me on Facebook (not something significant, given how people add everyone on Facebook) and added me. I messaged her with a thank you and we started chatting. It was an intelligent conversation (I don’t get those often) and I asked her if she was free to go to the book fair that weekend. She said she wasn’t. But she gave me her phone number and asked me to text her.

We started texting and it went on for a full-day. Back-and-forth, back-and-forth. It was quite nice and we asked each other about likes dislikes etc and found we had a lot in common. Then it stopped and we were out of touch for some time. I found her online some time later and asked her out again. She said she was busy and apologised for being busy (gave elaborate reasons etc). After that, I asked her out again once and she said yes. But the day of the date, she cancelled out as a sudden job interview had come in.

After the interview she said no to my asking out three more times. I later learned that if the job worked out, she would be moving out of the country for 2 whole years. I am guessing she didn’t want to start something at that point because she may not be around to do justice to it.

But the job thing didn’t work out and she found me online again. She dropped a hint about how she was free. I took it and asked her out again. She said yes. We met, and it was wonderful, though she appeared partially casual. We had lunch and watched a movie, during which she kept physical contact on and off. When she was saying bye, she told me to call her when I got home.

I got home and had a headache, so I texted her. She didn’t reply. She replied later in the night saying that she also had a headache and had gone off to sleep as soon as she reached home. We texted on and off and still do.

Here is my problem:

She never initiates conversations. I sometimes feel like I am imposing myself on her. Sometimes, it would be nice to have her text me or start a conversation. Or am I making this too big a deal?

From the sun sign PoV, I read that Scorpio girls are a bit hard-to-understand anyway, and that they don’t initiate contact and prefer to be pursued.

I am a bit stumped here, so any words of guidance will be most welcome.

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Anonymous #
11 months, 2 weeks ago (43 minutes after post)

Honestly, it sounds like she is unsure how she feels about you. She clearly enjoys talking with you, but because so much of your relationship has taken place online, there isn’t a real context for establishing a physical chemistry and real-world banter. Maybe she’s nervous, maybe she’s not looking for anything serious right now, or maybe she just isn’t attracted to you romantically.

The point is, you really won’t know anything until you ask her. If you’re content to continue going out on ambiguous and sporadic dates, and remain casual and undefined, then I’d say leave it be. But if you’re looking to establish something more meaningful with this girl, I’d suggest laying your cards on the table. Tell her you’d like to ask her out on a real date, you’re interested in her, and you’d like to know what she thinks. OR, the next time you hang out (if you’d rather wait until then), try to establish a more romantic tone.

The longer you put off finding out, the easier it will be for her to string you along, spending time with you when it’s convenient but not making any kind of commitment or sharing any of her feelings about the situation with you.

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11 months, 2 weeks ago (1 hour, 47 minutes after post)

she sounds like a typical scorpio girl to me.
maybe she just wants to get to know you, and obviously dosen’t like jumping into things
stop feeling so insecure about yourself, the key with scorpio women is that you have to have self confidence, if you want things to go further, carry out the right courtship steps at the right time. i think you should just get to know eachother as friends, first and foremost,most of your relationship is just online or whatever; not a great way to really get to know someone.
to be honest with you im no scorpio woman, but i am a woman and even i dont just start off conversation first etc with guys that i hardly know well

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11 months, 2 weeks ago (2 hours, 4 minutes after post)

Im a scorpio girl….its all or nothing in general. If you said you’d ring then you should have rang! Doesnt matter what she said. She probably thinks your not really into her.

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