state help: Does anyone here have something they can’t let go of? - Help.com

I don’t quite know what you mean? Why wouldn’t you let it go, if you knew you would be happier without it?

sometimes things are hard to let go of if you continue to blame yourself for it, or if you have a belief system because of it.

almost everyone have something they can’t let go of no matter how hard they try. And those “things”without them they wouldn’2 have been the way they are now.

Yeah I guess that’s true, some people end up being better people for the mistakes they have made in the past, but sometimes you just can’t forgive yourself.

I have a lot of trouble forgetting past embarrassment. It’s a real problem.

Not being able to forgive yourself has two results sometimes they combine and others they don’t back that just depends on one’s personality, one can try to be a better person just because he don’t wanna do the “things” which made him unable to forgive himself in the first place. And some other times, one just can’t move on and it becomes really hard for him to forgive himself and keeps blaming it on himself until he can’t take it anymore and in the end the results are almost the same everytime, one ends up hating himself
the best thing to do is to learn to live with yourself, live with your guilt and try your best to stop blaming yourself for whatever has happened.
Why not try and seek forgiveness from the ones whom you’ve hurt (just guessing) it usually ends up making people feel a little goodabout them self.
Don’t know if i’m making any sence ^^ but i hope I am

letting go is one of the most difficult, most precious things about life. the fact that we can let things go and start over, creating an entirely different life for ourself, is one of the most amazing things about being human. we can master our own fate, and there isn’t much that can match that.

I think it has a lot to do with forgiving yourself for the things you have done in the past. It’s easier to let go when you know the true gift of forgiving. This is what I had to do in order to move on. I will remember them, but I’m wiser because I remember and know I will never let them get me down.

Bianca, thank you for your input, I have not hurt anyone, but it’s hard for me to talk about so I wont. But I still find it hard to forgive myself. Sometimes you do things that don’t make sense because it goes against your values, and I guess you have a hard time wrapping your head around it..like what the motivation was, so I suppose your mind just keeps trying to make sense of it, and it ends up being at the forefront of your thoughts all the time.

Beccafunn, thank you as well for your input. Our ability to let things go is something were innately able to do, and it’s a good thing, or I think most people would have “got rid of themselves” so to speak…but yeah some things are just hard to let go of than others

Calling all angels, I agree with you, it does make you wiser, but it comes with more negatives than positives it seems sometimes.

LOL millions of things, the ****** up stuff i did when i was a teenager, the disastrous consequences of my binge drinking on weekends, the loss of one of my parents and how i lost one of them, the stupid things i’ve said and done when i’ve been nervous or in an awkward situation, falling out with ppl i considered to be family a year ago the list goes on lol