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I have this co worker.

We used to get along just fine. But there is a lot about her that irritates me. One she is lazy as heck and when it is not busy she sits on her butt and plays with her phone. We are supposed to be cleaning and doing housekeeping chores there is always something to do. When it is busy she does the same. I do all the work and she does absolutely nothing. It makes me mad because she is getting paid more than I and I am the one doing all the work. Last week I called her out on it and she got pissed off at me and started flirting with one of my close friends just to spite me. Now he thinks I’m the devil and wants me dead. Yesterday (another slow day) they sat there and gossiped and talked about me while I cleaned the windows. They didn’t know I could hear them but I did i heard everything. When I walked back they realized that I was listening and turned away. I have been working here for over four years and can’t quit because it is the family buisness but I can’t stand this chick. What do I do.

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Anonymous #
11 months, 2 weeks ago (17 minutes after post)

Tell your supervisor, and try to talk to your friend about the way your coworker acting, to try to get them to understand your point of view.

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mintra offline Verified User (3 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (1 hour, 50 minutes after post)

It is not easy to stand your ground, but you have done so, just dont back down. If you are right no one will want you to go except her.

Just keep telling her to put her phone down and work.

If it goes on ask for a pay rise so that you have parity with her. On the basis that you do at least what she does, and often more.

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An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (2 hours, 12 minutes after post)

Speak to her about how you feel. Inform your employer or supervisor. Try and right things with your friend.

Take the situation into your own hands. Initiate the changes to make things better. They won’t improve with idleness.

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southern_comfort offline Verified User (7 years) Long Term User Shouts: 178 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (2 hours, 14 minutes after post)

Gather your evidence. Security tapes. Register tapes. Pictures. Recorded conversations. Present your case to the judge and jury, e.g. your boss. Let the chips fall.

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fridge offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (10 hours, 17 minutes after post)

Okay im going to offer the other side of the coin cause everyone else has given the same answer….

I havent heard her side of the story, but have you considered that she probably considers you to be uptight and the fact that its a family business makes you family, and maybe because of that, you think you are entitled to a certain level of superiority? In other words, you subconsciously think you have power over her. She might resent that and do things specifically to bother you.

This is the workplace, but even so if I had a problem with a co worked, I would deal directly with the co worker…clearly the way you “called her out on it” made her feel defensive. Sounds like you’re both taking this personally, when its a professional situation. Next time confront her about without emotion, and with honesty and respectfulness…why should she respect you if you dont respect her?

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fridge offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (10 hours, 19 minutes after post)

And he wasnt a very good friend if he can be convinced to hate you in one conversation…

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