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I dont know when to draw the fine line.

I have been with the same guy since we were 15, we are now 28 yrs old. He is my bestfriend and has always been there for me. Basically i aloud him to take care of me for yrs why i was a depressing loser. He never once gave up on me or walked away. He has always been so nice and helpful thru out my life time with him. We are not perfect by no mean (who is i guess)but I guess im finding myself falling out love with him. Im mad at myself because i just dont get why. I keep holding on hoping that maybe it will go away or one of us will change so i can get back the love and happiness i once had with him. I guess i just dont know how to let go of something that is all you have ever known and that i feel I owe him the world for all he has done for me… i really cant even see myself doing very well in life with out him next to me ( makes me nerves) i dont even know were to start. So from the sound of that i should be in love with him right? but im not that kills me. I guess i wouldnt say i dont love him bc i do… just not like i use too an i want that back. I want that back because i have wish my whole life to get married to him… and now ill never get that chance . what is wrong with me?

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mintra 2 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (48 minutes after post)

Sure some people certainly appear to have all the benefits you talk about and are madly in love all their lives.

The rest of us, if we are lucky have to put up with all the benefits you talk about, and get on with it.

Cynically I say you may be confusing love with something else.

In which case have an affair.

Lets say the chance of you meeting up with someone else at least half as good as the guy your are with, is 50%.

Love the one your with!

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An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (1 hour, 25 minutes after post)

Relationships change naturally as they develop and mature. It’s not necessarily something you should worry about. If you have no love for him anymore, that would probably be a sign that you need to end things or address a problem. But a change in love is not automatically an indicator of trouble. It may just be a sign that things are changing naturally for you.

If you are truly concerned, you should voice your feelings. Let him know of your worries and nervousness. From your description, he sounds like quite a special person and one who understand you. You have a right to confide in him, just as he has a right to hear and know how you’re feeling.

And just out of curiousity: why do you say you can’t marry him?

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An Unknown Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (1 hour, 28 minutes after post)

There are ups and downs in every relationship. I think you should stick it out and try not to feel pressured.

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An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (2 hours, 10 minutes after post)

yeah i had this thought a while ago i was feeling really confused and upset and i felt the spark me and my bf had on our first dates had gone but it hadn’t, you fear you’re falling out of love because you love him so much and it’s a perfectly normal fear every relationship is complicated

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