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Don’t rush it. First dates are usually too soon. You really don’t know each other. I’d wait at least until the fourth or fifth date.

Be friendly, honest and casual. I’ve never really asked anyone out, but if I were to I think I would try and be as calm and as true to myself as possible.

It would also be wise to accept and prepare for any chance that she may not be interested in you romantically. She may very well be interested in you, but there is always a chance of the opposite. Being aware and ready for it achieves two things: if you find out that she does feel the same way it makes everything much more brilliant, and if she turns you down you’ll at least have some idea of how you’ll deal with it.

I try and prepare for the worst case scenario in almost all that I do. Very useful exercise.

I agree — you should first see how the date goes. Use it as a chance to show her that you care about her, and gauge how she’s feeling about you. You may want to take her hand or give her a hug — some kind of physical gesture to show that you are interested in her and enjoy her company — and then be proactive about asking her out again, calling her when you say you will, etc. After a few dates, you can let her know you really like her and are not interested in seeing anyone else.

The way my boyfriend did it was very sweet — he came over one evening and took my hand and said that he was having such a good time with me, and had absolutely no interest in seeing anyone else, and would it be okay if he started referring to me as his girlfriend? It made me feel very loved, and he was very clear about his intentions.

Good luck!

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The way my boyfriend did it was very sweet — he came over one evening and took my hand and said that he was having such a good time with me, and had absolutely no interest in seeing anyone else, and would it be okay if he started referring to me as his girlfriend? It made me feel very loved, and he was very clear about his intentions.

Aww, that’s so sweet! =)

:) thanks! I’m really lucky.

Lots of things! I think what first drew us together is that we both love playing and going on adventures — our second date we went to this beautiful park a little outside of the city to have a picnic, climb trees, and toss a Frisbee. We love hiking and being outdoors, and finding new spots to explore. We also enjoy cooking together — he’s a great cook, and since I’m a vegetarian, he has gotten very into finding delicious vegetarian recipes to try. And we also love watching silly movies together and cuddling…;)

If you ask too soon it will seem fake and disingenuous. Make her feel special, but do it without making it seem forced or fake. Be yourself.

I’m curious Bebedora. Is it the same girl from this post? http://help.com/post/528912-another-p…

No problem. Just wondering.