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My boyfriend and I barely talk anymore?

Is this normal? We been going out for 4 months now. He’s not a shy guy and he talks a lot and stuff. He would usually call me before he goes to work and afterwork but now we don’t do talk anymore. We can go on and not talk to each other until we see each other. We would see each other almost everyday. Until we had a fight and things went downhill. He said he gets upset at the stupid things I do. I don’t mean to do it, but at the same time its not like he hasn’t done something I don’t like and I don’t make a big deal out of it but he does. Nevertheless, because of our fight, he said we don’t see each other everday mostly once a week because he said that we need to take it slow before we grow tired of each other. I hesitate to call him because sometimes he doesn’t pick up my phone calls, but I have done that unintentionally because either my phone was off or I didn’t notice. Sometimes when i do call him, he texts me to say he’s doing something. he’s a busy guy, but I would appreciate it if he can at least call me every other day just for a few mins. What should I do? it was cuz of that fight that we barely talk to each other. I think he hold grudges and I think he needs to learn to let them go, but they are guys… boys will be boys. Im scared if I do talk to him, he’s just going to make excuse and say he’s busy which he is because he is working 2 jobs now. But I would like to talk to him and hear about his dad whether its good or bad and I can support him and give him love. I actually think we don’t talk much on the phone because I don’t say much. Half of the time I don’t understand what he is saying because the stuff he says is weird and I don’t get it. And when we do talk he complains about his day… which I don’t know what to say or what to think…

When we hang out, everything seems to be ok and we have a great time.

I kind of wonder what his female bffs has told him because one of them said I wasn;t the right girl for him and not stable, and they said to not spoil me. I’m not a princess and I don’t ask him to spoil me, so I do wonder what he told them and what they told him for him to come up with the decision of seeing each other less. I don’t think its a good thing either…..

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An Unknown Location | 11 months, 1 week ago (15 minutes after post)

Leave him!!! Don’t you get it hes just taking you for a ride!

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An Unknown Location | 11 months, 1 week ago (29 minutes after post)

see both of you are tring to escape eachthother and have ego clashes its jyst addiction if u dont understand his talk over phone and can not help him in his problems ur clearly not into him hes also trying to hurt you fitectly so hes also maintaing distance so dat you figure it out yourself.Really if it was lik true love then both of u cud not live without talking to eachother atleast once in a day no matter how much busy u guyz are ill suggest you to kindly talk to him and get to a conclusion rather than being in a confusion as it will keep u hurting.And dat wil make u to move on If for real u were boyfriend an girlfriend then I Guess 4 mnths is quite a long time.Best of luck for ur life

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