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well now you are learning not to be dishonest with people, that is the lesson. You should not have flirted with him, since you knew you had evidence of flirting with the first brother on facebook - duh. You lost on that one. Or, they’re gonna laugh and turn around and both play you … You have lost trust. Move on and act better, respect yourself, know who you are really interested in -

so ther is no way to get hem back ??!! i relly like him i regret everything i said to his brother .. and i’m ready to do anything to get him back …

well that may be your problem, ready to do anything … you’re not valuing yourself at all, that’s not cool - all you should do, is smile and say hi and keep walking. If he ever decides to forgive you and want to be your friend, it’s up to him. If you try to pursue him, he’ll laugh and joke about you to all his friends - and they’ll play tricks on you, pretending to like you, get it? So get a little self esteem, realize who You are as a person, before they tear you down and you feel like a dog they kick around

ok .. i’ll jsut try to forget about them .. thnx for helping me ..

sure, anytime - still on here if you want to talk

hi .. today i got a good idea to say sorry to him ..am thinking to send him a symbolic gift to france sins he is living there, like a video with our memories or our songs that we use to hear together .. A gift move his feelings .. but i don’t know exactly what to send him !!? you thingthat it’s a good idea or not !? and if it is .. what should i sent to him …

i think it is not. He has asked you to not contact him and he is angry. You are trying to force yourself back on him which he will not like even more. In life we learn lessons, and we try not to do that again, so, learn this lesson and move on. Maybe one day he will contact you, but I doubt it. Let it go and just enjoy your summer with friends.

i want enjoy anything as long he’s away from me .. i love him and i’m dying .. why don’t you want understand me !! how can he do not come back to someone loved him this much!! i’m a pretty smart educated girl and he is the first men on my life no one touches me before him no one even kiss me and no one will .. look, sens he ask me to stay away from him i didn’t talk to him in fact i broke up with him .. win he discover that i was talking with his brother he just ask me what happened tell me the story!!? but i say to him ” you know the story i made a mistake i should’ve told you, i know that you won’t forgive me so just let’s end it .. and i stop answering him .. than in his last msg he ask me to stop talking to him, although I stop talking or answering him since his first message!! but then i start missing him and i discover that i loved him .. all our relationships period i was so cold with him and uncaring, sometimes i even forget that i exist.. but now i realise how much i love and need him so i must solve this problem and get him back ..

then you are not so much smart or educated - smart means you obey his wishes to leave him alone and you have sorrow for what happened with his brother but you respect his wishes. Educated means you realize when you make a bad mistake and you learn from it. You do not wish to learn from it. You want to beg him back. That only puts you in servant status, and you will lose respect. From yourself, and from him and his family. Don’t do that. Now you know to wait and really feel before you decide on who to date. Be smart.

he is back :) he is back to me i don’t know how but he is back, i get angage to anather man so he talk to me and we come back together but he is not the same anymore :/ he sad that i need to change alots of things on my character or we can’t move on and that we should talk about them but i could’t answer him in the time so he desepirt his last message was “where are you” sens that masseg he desepirt, i can call him but i don’t want to i don’t wanst to sems needy am trying to keep this relation how should i act now ?! what should i do ??

did you say you are engaged to another man?

YES ther was a nice man who like me from a long time i went out with him just to forget about maher but after a few days he propos to marry me and i say yes and than evry one heard about it even maher so he come an talk to me i told hem that i didn’t do that by love and that he is the one i love so he keep sending me massages about my new reltionship and that he want come back with me but he is a fraid that i would heart him again when i sad no i want heat you he sad what about the new man my fiance i told hem that i don’t care and again he become more afraid of me and my relation ship with that new man become so sad and cold becouse i was thinking all time about maher so i talkd to him and i told him that i want hem back or compltly out of my life and that he have to chose and i gev him time to think for like a 24h but he answerd me even before the time so i bruck up with my new fance and now am with maher but he is not the saime anymore he sad that if i didn’t change alots of things of my character he will live me again so we dacide to speek about it but i was so tired that period and i sleept the time we sepos to be talking and when i wook up i found a massege from him saying “where the hell are you” i answred him but sens that masseg he desepirt he never get on ligne and his fone out of serves he live in france staduang medical school and am in tunisia now so i can’t do anything to contact with hem and am so wory about hem now i know that he well talkk to me soon like tomorrow mybe but he shoudn’t desepirt in the first place becouse we are in a relation ship and he sepost to be always here for me, so my qouestion was , what should i do now to keep this relationship i don’t want lose him agin ..

oh, you are a little girl, or you are extremely naive, your actions and reactions are not smart nor are they true. If you are so in love with someone who is not sure of himself, not yet a man, not in support of you, only wants to control your mind and break your true heart over and over, then that is your choice. However, he has not changed, he is a spoiled little boy that does not want to lose you cause you let him have control to a real man who offers marriage and may be serious and tender to you. He just wants to see if you would change and stay with him. He will continue to be a bad little boy, not good. Not loving, not caring, and even abusive to you. He will always bring to your face that you touched another, he will use that to hurt you always and always to make you feel bad. You will let him do this. You do not want a nice, decent, hard work man. You want this goofy guy who behaves like a 10 year old boy. who is not a man that will respect any woman or appreciate women, even his own mother. I think you will soon regret your decision. You are acting very confused and not thinking clear. Moving too fast. However, it is your choice for life and so, be happy with whatever you choose.