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how do i know if this girl likes me back?

we’ve had this thing and i dont really know how to explain it but i guess ill try and tell the story. ok so basically this started back in october when we both went to the same sat camp, yeah i know it’s pretty sad but im actually a very sad person with a very sad life and that’s the thing because there are so many more interesting and exciting people she’s friends with which makes me wonder if/why she chose me. also we’re 16. so basically we started talking and talking about random stuff like sats or this guy that she friend zoned or school. also we go to the same school. so yeah we talked a lot but mostly about random stuff not meaningful stuff or anything. and then eventually we got closer and we started talking about more important stuff like life and goals since we’re in the same english class and all so a discussion on the book would eventually get to a discussion about life or super powers or music but yeah. so eventually we got pretty close and i asked her to prom like 2 months in advance. then we went on this thing called intensive learning together and we went to florence with this group from our school but we would “get lost” and go random places and then turn up back in the group before anyone noticed. and we sat together on the 8 hour plane ride there and just talked, and on the way back for the 8 hours we talked again but then at the end there was some turbulence and i grabbed her hand and she didnt pull away and yeah. btw i dont have many other friends so no one would care if i was gone, but she has lots of friends so finding a way to get out was kinda difficult but yeah. So we ate dinner together and went on long walks together. One night there were bugs in her room so she went over to my room, btw youre not allowed to 1. leave your room after lights out and 2. go in the boys rooms. we were in a hotel btw. so she knocked on my door and i went outside and we basically talked there until she got her new room that was bug free. florence was the best, it was all hugs and stuff. when we got back it was kinda sad but we had prom to look forward to. btw at this point people ask if we’re dating but 1. she’s not allowed to officially date and 2. she said she doesn’t want to be somebody’s something. so we went to prom and it was awesome and we hugged at the end. btw i never kissed a girl before and i still havent so we didnt do that. but then she had to leave to go to a competition and she went in a car with the teacher driving and there was this guy from our grade that was there with her and he liked her and he grabbed her hand but then she called me so that she could pull her hand away but then he put his head on her shoulder and she was freaking out and she talked to me the entire way and the entire way back. when she got back from that she just didnt come into school the next day because the guy would be there. so then i asked her to the movies but her mom said that there had to be another kid, and this other kid is very exciting and cool and ecstatic all the time and she asked him if he would go. and i really wanted to go with her so i said yeah, so the kid sat in another row and we cuddled and watched the avengers and then i kissed her on the cheek but she didnt kiss me back. we still cuddled and held hands. but the next day she was like i think we can’t do that and that we can’t be that and we should still be friends because i really like talking to you. and there were like 10 days left of school and i was like ok sure, because she was the only person that understood me and knew who i was and i didnt want to lose that. so it got worse and the second to last day of school she basically said she didnt want to talk to me anymore and that she needed space to think. and then later that day she basically says im sorry and i want you and i was stupid to let you go. then the next day, which was the last day of school, we snuck off campus and away from her friends who she normally hangs out with and we went up town and we walked and talked and hugged and held hands and awkwardly bumped arms when we were walking and it was just like in florence except better because idk i cant really explain it. so then we went around and did stuff and talked over skype which we basically did every night. and she has this tumblr and it was filled with love posts and stuff like “just friends” with two people kissing, and yeah, im just a stupid lonely boy i dont understand why she would want me. if it helps at all the ecstatic boy who went with us to the movies is like her best friend and she questioned whether or not he was gay and he’s african american, idk if you want to know anything more just ask please, im not going to see her until august so i really want to know.

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lilangel639 offline Verified User (3 years, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (1 hour, 12 minutes after post)

she’s a confused girl who doesn’t want to break her parents rules but she still wants to be with you. She likes you, obviously, but she has restrictions and her own beliefs that she doesn’t want to temper with. She’s like me, if a guy calls me his girl I get pissed. She doesn’t like being labeled as someone else’s. Have you told her that you like her? Keep in mind her parents have their restrictions on her so unless you can convince her parents that you’re good enough to be with her, it’s going to take a lot of work on your part to make this happen. You can either sit back and wait and hope, or you can take action. Jump in, talk to her parents, let them see the best of you. Talk to her, tell her how you feel about her and how important she is to you. This is all a matter of jumping in and taking the chance

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Shigaku offline Verified User (3 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (5 hours, 27 minutes after post)

Personally, I think it is the restrictions that her parents laid on her. Take it easy man. She still wants to be with you, judging by your story.

Tell her that you like her, and that you’ll wait for her for as long as it takes. Keep the connection alive, and do your best to get on the good side of her parents. :)

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An Unknown Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (15 hours, 10 minutes after post)

i dont really know how this works, like can you guys see this reply at all? well i guess ill find out. so 1. her mom actually loves me because im “the nice smart kid”. actually the first time i met her mother was at c2 and her mom was picking her up and we talked about all the aps i was taking and it was great. and her mom gives me hugs every time i see her and usually im a pretty awkward person so that disturbs stuff but yeah, the only thing is that her mom doesnt really trust guys because, well, it’s a long story but basically her dad isnt there now. the only thing is that im scared to tell her i like her because what if she doesnt like me and then we aren’t friends anymore and that would just be the worst possible thing.

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An Unknown Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (15 hours, 47 minutes after post)

ok i just got off the phone with her, she’s at this camp right now and her mom took her phone so that she wouldn’t be texting people non-stop because she’s the popular girl and all that. but basically she wrote down my phone number so that she could call with other people’s cell phones, she also told me that she lied a little to them. she said that a bunch of people asked who’s phone number was on that slip of paper and she said it was her boyfriend. please, im really stupid and i dont understand anything, what do i do now?

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